[BrittanyAnn2609]

I have been with my fiancé for almost 16 months now, but lately I've been having a lot of dreams about one of my exes. What does this mean? In these dreams, I am reminiscing about hanging out with him and in most situations, we sleep together in the dreams. Why is he on my mind when I sleep? I don't understand. It's been almost four years since I was with him. He was my first relationship, and I lost my virginity to him which makes me have some sort of a tie to him, and also I was really obsessed with him. It took me two years to get over him. I have him on snapchat and sometimes we talk, but not really. I still get a little excited when I talk to him, even though he is an asshole. My fiancé treats me way better than he did, but sometimes I find myself more physically attracted to my ex than to my fiancé. I don't understand... What do you think?

[QuixiHubris]

I think it's pretty normal to still have subconscious feelings toward an ex, and the natural way for your brain to process those feelings is through dreaming. It sounds like this guy had a significant impact on your life, whether good or bad or in between.

If I were you, I wouldn't place too much weight on the dreams, or even the remnants of attraction. You're building something new and good with your fiance, and you recognize that your current relationship is healthier than your past one. Brains are just jerks sometimes that fixate on your worries and then manifest those worries in your sleep. The good news is that it's a totally normal way in which your mind takes stock of itself and sorts through complex issues like this one!

Sounds like you're subconsciously comparing your ex to your current fiance, b/c you miss your ex? Maybe you feel like you had a better connection with your ex than you do with your fiance?

If it's been 4 years since your relationship with your ex and you're still dreaming about him, it's because you have unresolved feelings about that relationship or about your ex.

Do you compare your fiance to your ex? Does keeping your ex in your life, interfere with your relationship to your fiance?

Here's a good list of 10 reasons why we dream about an ex. There are droves of articles online about it. Hope this helps.

10 Reasons You’re Dreaming About Your Ex and What it Means

1. What stands out to me about this particular ex or our relationship?
2. Is there anything in my current life or relationship that seems similar to this former ex or relationship?
3. Is there a lesson I learned from that particular ex or relationship that I can apply to my current life or relationship?
4. Do the actions or circumstances in the dream seem similar to any of my current circumstances?
5. Do the emotions or thoughts I had in the dream relate to how I feel or think about anything in my life or in my relationship right now?”