[Wants2Fly]

Hello All --

I continue to try to get past the hurt, pain, confusion and anger I've felt after being abruptly abandoned by my beloved of 15 years in May 2003.

Sometimes I will think of him and a voice chimes in, "I hate him."

But then a wiser voice argue -- No, you don't. That is your ego self, the little self. You don't hate him. You are just hurt and healing.

The email I've copied below really helped me to see that it is Okay to feel the pain. That the goal of feeling good and becoming whole is not to deny emotions, but do to what I am trying to do -- to be aware of them, feel them, and them transcend them. I hope someone else likes this message, too:


Email entitled: Embrace the positive and negative
in wholeness

"Only when we can love hell will we find heaven."

-- Unknown source

People often view the spiritual path as a search for the light. In truth, spirituality asks us to bring light and darkness together in wholeness. And in fact, this is the only possible solution. In our world of duality, any effort to focus all attention on the light only serves to increase the power of the darkness. Our aim is not to deny or reject anything but to embrace it all.

"When you are able to contain both the light and dark together, that is a very enlightening state. It means that you no longer have to choose one experience over another. You do not have to choose love OR hate, blame OR forgiveness, sadness OR joy, anger OR openheartedness. You are no longer polarized; no particular feeling boxes you in and keeps you from the light of true self. You then have access to the full range of human experiences you came into this life to embrace."

-- Martia Nelson

Apply the 7 step spiritual healing process to heal life’spains. Let go of the hindering past and personality defencest to find self-acceptance and positive change. Receive 30 days of email coaching.Work with causes instead of effects.

From a website named "higherawareness.com"

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[complic8d]

(((((wants))))) Sorry to hear what you are going through. This is a great piece on wholeness. I agree with it, not denying any emotions, whether deemed "good" or "bad". My therapy now involves feeling my feelings and not pushing them away. Thanks for the words of wisdom. Take care. HUGS!

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{Wants2}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Sounds like you're still in mourning. Nothing wrong with that. It's important to allow ourselves to feel all the feelings that come with the loss of a loved one. Allowing ourselves the feelings is quite often scary so kudos to you for entering into this process.

Keep sharing what you are learning. Speaking stricktly for myself, I'm here to listen any time you need it, ok? My shoulders are quite broad and "fluffy."

[Wants2Fly]

Thank you everyone for being with me on this roller coaster ride called life.

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