[shorty85]

I suffer from bipolar and depression and I sometimes have a hard time getting over certain things. I get left out of stuff like wedding parties, baptisms and other events in which people get asked to participate in and feel honored. I will probably never get to be in a wedding party and I will never get to experience something like that. A lot of my friends and relatives have been in weddings and in the past I have always heard them talk about their experiences and I have seen pictures of them at the weddings and I feel like I’m missing out on knowing what it’s like to be honored and be apart of something very important. I have never been asked to be a godparent or similar things. Does anyone have any advice of how to get over not experiencing certain things?

I come from a large family. I never was asked to be best man at a wedding or a godparent. I have been in several wedding parties. I too wondered why I was not asked more often. I do not think it was done out of malice. For me, I found it curious and let it go at that.

[Shailene101]

Originally Posted by shorty85

I suffer from bipolar and depression and I sometimes have a hard time getting over certain things. I get left out of stuff like wedding parties, baptisms and other events in which people get asked to participate in and feel honored. I will probably never get to be in a wedding party and I will never get to experience something like that. A lot of my friends and relatives have been in weddings and in the past I have always heard them talk about their experiences and I have seen pictures of them at the weddings and I feel like I’m missing out on knowing what it’s like to be honored and be apart of something very important. I have never been asked to be a godparent or similar things. Does anyone have any advice of how to get over not experiencing certain things?

Well I was raped, and I am still not over that. I think it's a one step at a time thing.

[NuckingFutz]

Hello. I think what might help is to focus on experiences you have been part of that are positive and special. For example, I did not go to prom or get married but I got to serve my country and live overseas. Never had kids but did some really cool projects with foster kids and homeless animals.

[Perna]

I've usually only been in wedding parties of my best friends; around the time when those my age were getting married. Very few of my good-sized family does christenings/baptisms anymore either and I can't remember the last one I went to.

I usually make myself feel better by looking at who was chosen for roles and figure out why that person was chosen; they usually had a longer/better relationship or were more directly affected, a relative where I was just a friend, etc.

Think who you would choose if you were getting married and why, etc. It might reveal what you think about certain people and help you with your relationships with them.