[Pittcowboy75]

I am 35 year old male. I have been deceitful, dishonest, egotistic, self-destructive, self-conceited, self-putying, rude, cowardly, and judgmental in my actions towards others and especially my mother-in-law and wife. I am wondering what disorders these traits describe. I am scared that they could become worse if I don't get them under control. I feel the only way I can start is to have at least a basic list of disorders I can further research. my marriage is on the brink of disaster because of my actions and I don't want to do any more damage than I already have. I want to change my ways but I am having a hard time sticking to the necessary actions. I go the right direction for a few days then go back to the old ways. I was initially diagnosed in 2006 with Moderate Depressive Disorder after my first marriage failed due to the same behavior patterns. Can someone give me an idea of the different disorders that my list falls into or point me to where I can find out myself? Thank you.

[hahalebou]

I suggest seeing a therapist. S/he can help with all the aforementioned traits. To me, it sounds a little like antisocial personality disorder, but I'm not a psychologist so I can't diagnose you. Whatever it is, I think it's fantastic that you've recognized these destructive traits in yourself, and you're seeking help to correct them. I wish you the best of luck!

[Denver Dave]

Originally Posted by Pittcowboy75

I am 35 year old male. I have been deceitful, dishonest, egotistic, self-destructive, self-conceited, self-putying, rude, cowardly, and judgmental in my actions towards others and especially my mother-in-law and wife. I am wondering what disorders these traits describe.

Sounds like low self-esteem is a big part of it. Read The 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden or see a therapist. Or both.

[lastyearisblank]

Just used google and what do you know, there is a whole list on another part of this site:
http://psychcentral.com/disorders/

It's impossible for someone to diagnose you through the internet. It might even be more useful to focus on the actual behaviors that are bothering you or others. Like if you talked to a therapist they would ask you what scenarios keep playing out, how you feel about them... just to have a more well rounded and balanced picture to go on, where they could say "THIS is the crux of it, and doing THIS would help"... They might recommend counselling alone or as a couple.

Sorry to hear you are having marriage troubles--good luck.