[feary]

My body is a mess with fat and sagging and stretch marks everywhere among other things

I am so not confident with all these issues

the fat I am exercising and eater better about but the rest I just have to live with?

plastic surgery is not affordable to me at all

not sure how to cope

if i was still married I don't think this would be an issue but no one is going to like me the way I look now with all m flaws

[missbelle]

Not like you now??? You are so wrong...you are just thinking about the outside. Besides I wouldn't want someone that was only concerned witrh the outside anyway. They would be pretty shallow to me!!!!!!! Besides we all age and what was beauty before is not later on. Things change

Think about the positive things about you...like your eyes....do you like them...can you wear makeup to make them stand out?

Makeup does wonders and can make you feel better

What about your hair..Can you color it a different color or get it cut?

Take time to list just the positive things about you...the compliments you received in the past. What colors look good then go shopping for a couple new tops...Money tight then hit the thrift stores. I have found great name brands-new in thrift stores

Make a plan for improvement if it make you feel better. Sometimes a plan gives up hope...a goal. New clothes, makeup can always help but remember its inside you...that feeling! Sometimes we can change the outside but still feel bad....its about attitude too.......and you know when you watch t.v. that those women are not real...They are totally made up with jewelry and clothes, a makeup person and someone there to do their hair...now catch them at their house at 6:00a.m... you will find they look just like you.....

Been there ...just like you feel now.........Why do all women feel under such pressure. Its a shame its the media for one thing....

Hope you feel better

Hugs;
Dee

[okayone]

Originally Posted by missbelle

Not like you now??? You are so wrong...you are just thinking about the outside. Besides I wouldn't want someone that was only concerned witrh the outside anyway. They would be pretty shallow to me!!!!!!! Besides we all age and what was beauty before is not later on. Things change

Think about the positive things about you...like your eyes....do you like them...can you wear makeup to make them stand out?

Makeup does wonders and can make you feel better

What about your hair..Can you color it a different color or get it cut?

Take time to list just the positive things about you...the compliments you received in the past. What colors look good then go shopping for a couple new tops...Money tight then hit the thrift stores. I have found great name brands-new in thrift stores

Make a plan for improvement if it make you feel better. Sometimes a plan gives up hope...a goal. New clothes, makeup can always help but remember its inside you...that feeling! Sometimes we can change the outside but still feel bad....its about attitude too.......and you know when you watch t.v. that those women are not real...They are totally made up with jewelry and clothes, a makeup person and someone there to do their hair...now catch them at their house at 6:00a.m... you will find they look just like you.....

Been there ...just like you feel now.........Why do all women feel under such pressure. Its a shame its the media for one thing....

Hope you feel better

Hugs;
Dee

It is a shame that women are under so much pressure to look good. My whole life I've worked at it and now my age shows and working at it doesn't work anymore. I'm also trying to lose weight which is terribly difficult when exercise (walking) and watching the portions of food don't seem to work anymore either. What to do...

[lonerchic]

Oh my goodness I feel the same as you Dee....I am about to hit 30 in a year and what do I have to show for the years? My beauty is fading my baby sis looks so good and healthy I wish I were in my early twenties again...I have little to no self esteem, I'm taking online classes but still feel no improvement within myself. I just want be happy and at peace bwithin myself.