I have always had a low self-esteem

I dont know. Dont know how. But I just do. I do know that I've always been made to feel low. I was bullied for much time, since I started grade school. It never stopped. I mean there were periods were I wasn't bullied but I was mostly bullied. And whenever someone tells that they like me, Im pretty, or whatever, I find it hard to believe them. I mean how do I believe someone's compliment when I've told that I'm not pretty, I'm not noticeable in the past? How do I get past that?

I think as you get older you will learn to get passed a lot of things. With age and time comes a lot greater understanding of how to accept who you are as a person. Basically, it will not be very easy for you to learn to accept compliments and to not put up a wall between you and anyone else, but it will not be impossible.

Oceancries
Hi again. We spoke on another post. I'm with you. When people say "just do it. Love yourself. Your a good person worthy of good things, it frustrates me b/c I can't convince myself of it. I feel stupid, like, I can't even do something that comes naturally.
I grew up in an abuse home with 9 kids and some of them have self esteem in spades. S
I didn't get the memo about loving, esteemjng, having any regard for myself. I'm a but of a funk so if I'm not coherent, I apologize. Thanks for letting Me jump in.

Yeah its hard when you've been taught opposite. When people repeatedly say you're not worthy, you start to believe it. and when someone good finally says the opposite, its so hard to take those words in.

I do the same thing a lot. I wonder what other people see in me, because I don't see much in myself. People say others won't love you until you love yourself, that may be true.. since I feel unlovable and I'm alone alot. I can't accept compliments and I always wonder if there's some sort of ulterior motive. Glad to know I'm not alone in that, but sorry that you're going through it.

I also struggle with accepting compliments. I tend to take harsh criticism better than compliments. I am trying to be more open to compliments.