[dsh74]

Not sure where to start. Would possibly like some advice. Have a hard time being alone. Have been on here before, back in May. There's too many choices as to where to go, what to do, all alone, in a relatively large city, compared to what I've been used to in the past.
Don't have many acquaintances. Did call an old classmate tonight though, and got some numbers for some other ones from her. I need contact with others, is all, but not sure I like the idea of having to do all the work, for it. Would like someone to come see me, as I am, without needing to be all fixed up, etc., you know. Just to be me.
Well, I hope, really hope this time, I can get ahold of these other friends and see at least one of them. I used to exchange Christmas cards with one of them, then had lost contact for awhile.
See, we moved a lot, I have addresses of people in my address book, where I have to jog my memory as to who they are. Not long lasting relationships with so many of them.
Well, anyway, it can get quite lonely, husband gone driving again. I think some things in that area may change soon. But I just can't stand too much time alone. Needed some of it, at beginning of week, since had been around family too much over a 2 week period. So, I got some things done and caught up, then question, what do I do with myself.
I drive too, and the friend I talked to tonight said she couldn't do that. I couldn't work in a grocery store, even though at one time, I thought it might be an easy job. I am not a people person. Do better driving out on long stretches. Now, it's not a big truck mind you, but buses, RV's, etc. Just wanted to let you know, whoever reads this.
So, there's probably a few on here that might understand. Even talked to a few people at businesses today, I can do alright sometimes talking with them, other times, they get the best of me. Can't seem to stand up for myself.
Well, will let this do for now. Hope someone can identify. Take care.

[Rapunzel]

It sounds like you are trying several things that all sound like good places to start. Also, it's okay to be an introvert. It sounds like you probably are an introvert since you like driving long stretches and have a hard time dealing with people.

Introverts still need relationships though. Actually, introverts need more depth with a few close friends rather than lots of contact with a lot of people and not usually going much beyond surface level.

Keep going with the contacts you do make, if you enjoy them. And I've found that online groups like this one are also a good place to make a few really good friends.

TC,
Rap

[(JD)]

Welcome to PC!

Why not pick just one thing that you think you will like ... as in recreation... and do that until you are comfortable with adding anything else. Don't overwhelm yourself, don't have too much expectation. I understand the moving alot. Make a list, and look at it when you feel up to doing or changing something, not day to day guilt trip, ok? TC!

[dsh74]

Sorry it took me so long to get back on here. Yes, I am an introvert, have known it for quite awhile now. The next day after I posted last, I was pretty much going stir crazy. I needed to get out, and finally did, just for a short drive. And, yesterday, I had to go to the dentist, so I was out for that, just being out sometimes helps.

I prefer doing things, especially fun things, with someone, of course, most people do. Family would be nice, but we can't all be together that often, with our jobs.

I don't even like to have to go get gas for my car, those gas pumps are tricky sometimes. I hardly ever have to get any, my husband does it. He forgot to make sure I'd have enough before he left this time.

I'm doing okay right now, but if alone again for too long, it gets to me. I still don't like to have to go do things that weren't planned, you know. It's really hard for me to do anything, like just window shopping, (not
buying) all by myself. I have to have a purpose to get out. I do get out when have to, but really have to plan hard, to do the window shopping kind of thing.
When I drove the other day, I pretty much just went, without makeup and all. But usually I prefer to wear it, so that takes more time.

Anyway, thanks for your comments. I'm working on improving. Situations, I feel need to improve for me/us too, and will, I hope and pray eventually.

good luck, pat