[shortandcute]

She is very close to my sister, which is fine, but my sis and I very different in our tastes. Well, my daughter compares me alot to my sister, and today she came out and told me that our couch "didn't go" with our house and that we needed to get one like my sister's! We've had that couch for 1 1/2 years and it goes perfectly fine with our house. I don't understand why all of a sudden, after all this time, she doesn't like it. That really bothers me now.

[allimsaying]

I could see how having her compare you to your sister might affect your self esteem. It might hurt too that she likes your sisters furniture better?

[hester91]

Originally Posted by allimsaying

I could see how having her compare you to your sister might affect your self esteem. It might hurt too that she likes your sisters furniture better?

Hi,

My teenagers were murder on my self esteem. They were intent on making me feel like I was the world worst mother. Theyre in their 20's now and are more mindful that their words can hurt a person. Theyre really nice kids. We get along well.
She probably doesnt realize that she made you feel bad. Teenagers are ignorant by nature. I mean ignorant in the true sense of the word. Its not meant as a slam at your daughter.

Watch, in a few years shes going to ask for that sofa when she moves out. Lol, you can tell her it doesnt go with her apartment.

She will become more thoughtful of your feelings. They get better when they begin to walk in our shoes. Time and perspective....
Keep your chin up. Ill bet youre sofa is great.

[shortandcute]

Thanx to both of you-I guess I just needed to hear that. She is generally a good kid, but just a bit outspoken--which is not necessarily a bad thing in itself; in fact I kind of like it. Logically, I know that when she says stuff like that, it's not meant in a bad way, she's just talking. I just tend to take things personally.

[ECHOES]

Of course she doesn't. It's "yours!". She's 16. She's beginning to think about her own life and what she might do.

Why not ask her to do a project of cutting furniture from advertisements and making a room that she would love to have-- with the clear communication that it is a project for fun, not to make any actual changes.

[shortandcute]

that sounds like a good idea