[henrydavidtherobot]

Yesterday was my birthday party. I had a wonderful time with wonderful people. Although, like it always is after I drink or disclose things to people, I am so anxious now that I'm too intense because I always end up talking about serious stuff. I'm always so embarrassed and self-loathing the next day. I'm trying to learn that people love me, despite this, and that I am who I am and that's okay. I think I'm slowly learning, but is there any advice on how to be comfortable with being who I am? Anyone have to deal with this?

[lizardlady]

HenryDavid, I suspect lots of folks here have experience not being comfortable with who they are. Been there myself. I don't remember how I overcame it. Sorry.

You mention drinking a disclosing too much about yourself. Does the drinking lead to too much self disclosure?

[henrydavidtherobot]

Not really. I meant separately.

[Jacki~]

I have issues which keep me from disclosure. I'm so hesitant to open up and spill the beans. When I do.... I often question myself, is it too much? I usually stifle, and keep my ideas close to myself. BUT THEN!!! Opppppppppps! I let it out. Blurt! Snap! Does this happen often, that you feel this way?

I have taken to reading the newspaper or a magazine before a gathering. That way, I am sharing what is current, in the news and not something of a personal nature. Being prepared with a few tidbits gives me courage.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by henrydavidtherobot

Yesterday was my birthday party. I had a wonderful time with wonderful people. Although, like it always is after I drink or disclose things to people, I am so anxious now that I'm too intense because I always end up talking about serious stuff. I'm always so embarrassed and self-loathing the next day. I'm trying to learn that people love me, despite this, and that I am who I am and that's okay. I think I'm slowly learning, but is there any advice on how to be comfortable with being who I am? Anyone have to deal with this?

you do not really need any advice - you are already on the right path, intuitively. See in bold. You cannot accelerate this process, but you are on the right path, so eventually you will be just fine.