No Self Esteem At All

I don't know what to do... I think cockiness is arrogance and to be honest I think I am somewhat happy having the low self esteem I have, because then I wont have to get my hopes up and watch them crash down later...no more disappointments...no more failures...but everyone says I think wrong and that I must be an idiot to be thinking the way I do, so am I an idiot for being happy?

Hey CrookedSmile,

I think you have a healthy, realistic attitude to be honest. If your "low self-esteem" is not affecting your functioning or your life, then I would say it's not a big deal at all. I think maybe you're just comfortable with yourself?

I personally love to be content with my views of myself, I would much rather be happier with just the way I am than striving for some imagined facade of confidence that I'm never going to have.

I really like your attitude on this, some may say you're cynical or pessimistic, but I think it's realistic and healthy. That's just my opinion.

I think taking Risks are an more exciting way to go in life.

Hmmm. Well I have absolutely 0 self-esteem and am very unhappy. So about your happiness...you said it yourself, you have low self-esteem so that you won't get hurt. It is a defense mechanism. It is a boundary issue where you are too closed down because you don't want to be hurt from vulnerability. Healthy would be somewhere inbetween vulnerable and closed off.

To Stratocastor and Sadley... you both understand me so well... Stratocastor, you understand that desiring to be something what I am never going to be able to is just wasted imagination and Sadley, you just basically put me on blast, but not in a bad way like you just said what is wrong with me so perfectly.. thank you