[hamster-bamster]

This is cross-posted in Steps to Better Self-Esteem and in Goal Setting forums.

I would like feedback on this approach (here is a link to a FB post). It definitely helps me; I wonder if it can assist others as well.

Of course, for people who are comfortable commenting on the Facebook page, your comments would be very valuable. I realize that most people would not feel comfortable enough, though, and for a good reason.

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You probably have happened on suggestions to treat yourself as your own good friend. "If this question were asked by a friend of yours, what would you say?"; "How would you help a close friend of yours if he or she were in this dire situation?" This is all great advice: it aims at eliminating negativity, rumination, excessive and unproductive feelings of guilt and shame, unending self-criticism, and the like. How about we extend this approach and treat ourselves as our own most valuable employees:
- moody, but talented;
- sometimes unpredictable, but uniquely able;
- creative and dedicated, but requiring help in organizing efficient processes and getting through tasks?

What kind of a self-manager would you strive to be? Think of this from the standpoint of end results:

- would you berate your most valuable and irreplaceable employee or would you give her the help and resources she needs?

- would you offer praise and CONSTRUCTIVE criticism or would you nag nag nag and nag yet more?

- would you promote your employee and give him public recognition or would you shame and belittle him, both privately and in front of others?

Even if you cannot presently think of yourself as your BEST employee, you have to concede that you are your own most IRREPLACEABLE human resource. So, treat yourself with appreciation!

My reply is my "Signature" quote which appears below. (I'm not on FB.)

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by The Skeezyks

My reply is my "Signature" quote which appears below. (I'm not on FB.)

How lovely.

[SmileHere]

Interesting. The approach scares me a bit (as I've been afraid of jobs) it's really eye-opening though!
We are indeed our best (and only haha) employees!!

PS I looked at your fb page - what do you mean with 'safe' disposal of meds by soaking? Soaking the meds in water (that is totally unsafe for our waterways!) or to remove the labels first for anonymity?

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by SmileHere

Interesting. The approach scares me a bit (as I've been afraid of jobs) it's really eye-opening though!
We are indeed our best (and only haha) employees!!

PS I looked at your fb page - what do you mean with 'safe' disposal of meds by soaking? Soaking the meds in water (that is totally unsafe for our waterways!) or to remove the labels first for anonymity?

the latter - Soaking the empty bottles for anonymity. There is a picture on FB. But if it was unclear to you, that means I was not clear enough, so, my bad. I would update the postings to make them clear.

[hamster-bamster]

corrected the post - thanks for feedback

[anothercliché]

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

This is cross-posted in Steps to Better Self-Esteem and in Goal Setting forums.

I would like feedback on this approach (here is a link to a FB post). It definitely helps me; I wonder if it can assist others as well.

Of course, for people who are comfortable commenting on the Facebook page, your comments would be very valuable. I realize that most people would not feel comfortable enough, though, and for a good reason.

***

You probably have happened on suggestions to treat yourself as your own good friend. "If this question were asked by a friend of yours, what would you say?"; "How would you help a close friend of yours if he or she were in this dire situation?" This is all great advice: it aims at eliminating negativity, rumination, excessive and unproductive feelings of guilt and shame, unending self-criticism, and the like. How about we extend this approach and treat ourselves as our own most valuable employees:
- moody, but talented;
- sometimes unpredictable, but uniquely able;
- creative and dedicated, but requiring help in organizing efficient processes and getting through tasks?

What kind of a self-manager would you strive to be? Think of this from the standpoint of end results:

- would you berate your most valuable and irreplaceable employee or would you give her the help and resources she needs?

- would you offer praise and CONSTRUCTIVE criticism or would you nag nag nag and nag yet more?

- would you promote your employee and give him public recognition or would you shame and belittle him, both privately and in front of others?

Even if you cannot presently think of yourself as your BEST employee, you have to concede that you are your own most IRREPLACEABLE human resource. So, treat yourself with appreciation!

I'm not sure if these would help me, because I cannot help but feel that they're false. First of all I do not feel talented, just moody. For the second option I don't feel it applies but in a different way as I am indeed very predictable, but I guess in some ways that could be considered a plus, being very consistnet. I'm neither creative nor dedicated. I'm not irreplaceable, but for once that's not stemming from some sort of complex, I just think that the vast majority of humans are replaceable in the grander scheme with just a handful of exceptions. I haven't done anything to EARN praise, so neither on that count. I do appoligize as I realize I'm being unhelpful, but I have been told by others that realizing the problem is the first step towards solving it, so I must admit the problem of I don't feel that this applies to me as much as it should. Sorry again for talking back, I am aware that you are trying to help.

[hamster-bamster]

By irreplaceable, I did not mean in the grand scheme of things, humanity-wide.

I meant that for YOU, nobody could replace YOU. So it makes sense to treat YOURself decently. Even if the only work you do for yourself is brush teeth and type interesting posts.

Does the clarification make it any different?

Thanks btw!