[Webgoji]

So I was working on some self-esteem exercises recently and one of them asks about compliments I've received:

My Strengths and Qualities | Therapist Aid

Uh ... well ... Don, my supervisor, says I'm smart. After that it gets really muddy in a hurry. Also, in therapy this weekend it came about that I give my wife multiple compliments every day, but she doesn't reciprocate because for her, "I just grew up that we don't compliment each other."

Anyway, the therapist feels I miss out on plenty of compliments (just don't log them in my brain for some reason) so I'm starting a log. I'll record the compliments as they come in so I can get a true idea of what's really going on here. Wish me luck!

[StrongerMan]

Compliments never did much for me. I can spot the phony ones in a second. And I don't think I deserve them anyway. They always say to give "110%" in all you do. Then why should I get a compliment for doing what is expected?

[gayleggg]

I usually get embarrassed when I get a compliment. I, too, never believe I deserve them, so I probably don't register them either. I just never thought about it before.

[StrongerMan]

I also am very mindful of being authentic when doling out compliments. If someone gets one from me, they can be assured it is sincere and without an ulterior motive.

[Webgoji]

See, compliments are like diamonds to me; rare and valuable. I grab them buggers up and cherish them like Golum and "the precious".

[StrongerMan]

Yes, sincere compliments are rare indeed, especially in this day and age. My high school English teacher of many years ago used to say one of her pet peeves was kids who didn't know how to take a compliment. I didn't really know what she meant. Maybe she was referring to acting shy and embarrassed. But now I realize how we take a compliment, that is, whether or not it is allowed to build us up in a positive way, is one of the most important factors in healthy personal growth. And for many unfortunate kids, they are few and far between. Others are bombarded with undeserved praise and never learn to appreciate the value of the real deal both from the giving and receiving end.

[Webgoji]

So I logged my compliments this week and here's where I stand:

Sunday - Daughter asked how I make my chili because she really wanted some.
Monday - Wife said it would be a great day because she got to come home to me.
Monday - My boss said, "Hey, you're a smart guy ..."

So yeah, three this week!

[Poppy Princess]

No one compliments me

[JadeAmethyst]

People tell me I am intelligent, and caring.

[Webgoji]

So after a couple months of going to the therapist, we finally got around a treatment plan. One of things that was brought up:

My wife and I are to compliment each other at least once per day. Lol! Well isn't that ironic?

[Webgoji]

Originally Posted by Poppy Princess

No one compliments me

I can say that I've made it far enough through your script to say you're a more accomplished writer than I am and better than I'll be in several years of writing. Take pride in your writing because it's quite good.

(Now back to the script 'cause I'm a sloooow reader)