[LifeIsCruel]

How does one attain a healthy self esteem, if they have never had it?? Or is is even possible?

Thanks for all on this site who post/help me...as I have no family to speak of...I have many friends, I am blessed there...but none of them have no/low self esteem, so they cannot relate.

[Mike_J]

I think it's possible.. though how to get there is a mystery to me. I think there is a range that would be "healthy" I know a few people who have WAY too much self esteem, that isn't healthy either.

[DarrenPH]

I've been where you are now, I was bullied at school and I'd had low self esteem throughout all of my life but I found a way out, mainly though the teachings of Anthony Robbins, one day I'll get to thank him.

If I could give anybody with low self esteem one tip to get themselves out of the rut they're in it would be this;

Write down 100 things you've always wanted to do and start doing them. 100 seems alot and it is that's why it's such a good number. This list can contain anything like finding the courage to take a defective product back to a shop to jumping from a plane on your own at 3,500 feet (I did that, it was amazing).

There is only one rule when creating the list, it's not a normal bucket list it's a self-esteem sky rocket list, the rule is, everything on your list must make you feel at least a little uncomfortable about doing it.

Try to get a variety of things that make you feel a little uncomfortable and some that scare the hell out of you. Pick the easier ones off first, every time you do something that scares you even a little it increases your self esteem just a little. The compound effect of this is phenomenal.

One last thing, the only person who can improve your self esteem is you. The only person responsible for the current state of your self esteem is you. As long as you blame things outside of your control for your level of low self esteem you will forever remain this way. This is a hard pill to swallow, I know it is, I've been there but it's the truth. Go out there and make things happen, you're worth it, even if you don't believe it yourself, I do and I don't even know you.