[KaceFace]

My boyfriend and I are on the verge of breaking up because his feelings are not as strong as they used be. He doesn't love me as much as I love him. I feel like this happened because for the past year we have been through a pregnancy, an abortion, him getting kicked out of his house, and being in between jobs and through all these stressful situations we forgot how to love each other and care for each other the right way because I depended on him too much and the stuff he used to do for me wasn't enough anymore and he just shut down. I forgot how to take care of myself without depending on him so much.

Now I have come to the conclusion that in order for us to get our relationship back on track I need to become the person that he fell in love in with but also be a person that I like. I need to find a happy medium between the person I was before the abortion (the girl that he fell in love with) and the person I have become. Before the abortion I was strong and independent and could take care of myself but I was really good at holding things in and not letting it show that I was hurting. I kept things bottled up. After the abortion I became really needy and clingy and depended on my boyfriend way too much. I tried not to bottle things up anymore and talk to him when things were bothering me but I ended up clinging to him and not doing it the right way.

I feel like focusing on myself and trying to be the girl that he fell in love with and being a person that I like will help fix our relationship.

Any ideas, thoughts, advice?

[Little Lulu]

Wow - what a great post. You have good insight into what has happened in your life and ways to get things back on track. If you just focus on taking care of and being true to yourself, I bet everything else will fall into place.

[KaceFace]

I sure hope so. I feel like we forgot why we fell in love in the first place and we forgot what was important to us and forgot how to love and care for each other the right way. I feel like if I can find the happy medium it will help remind him why he fell in love with me and it will give him the motivation to try as well. Because I also feel like we lost that spark, that connection that we had and if we start doing things that we used to do for each other and even a little more it will help us get back into the swing of things and remind us why we fell in love.