Self esteem and self hate issues

Hi,

I'm only 17 but I have recently been having a lot of problems with hating myself quite strongly after fighting with my girlfriend, or just stuffing things up in general. I feel like I'm overreacting a lot, and this is causing me to hate myself more for it. I really don't want to hate myself because I know I'll probably end up like my girlfriend with depression, and I can't let that happen.

Is there anything I can really do to stop hating myself quickly after these things happen, or prevent it altogether in the first place? Thanks in advance.

I struggle too with overly quick reactions. Things that trigger my deeper hurts but have found that when possible leaving the room , or counting to at least ten can help break that very quick pattern. Hopefully giving me some time to think and act and speak rationally. In the end it helps you to find solutions instead of escalating the problems.

The best thing to do is to learn how to relax yourself and not react too strongly or too quickly to anything. When she upsets you instead of fighting about it just speak your opinion in a explanatory way and in a calm way- usually people tend to listen to what you have to say when you don't scream or fight.