When I reach out I don't get the responses that others get.

Be honest with me. Am I doing something to offend people?

[Trippin2.0]

I like you 😊


And idk if you're doing something wrong, if you are, I don't see any evidence of it.


I think I tend to offend certain personalities though, so my perception may just be biased?


I doubt it though.


I'm sorry I haven't given you much feedback, I don't post if I don't feel I have anything valuable to offer.

You are just perfect just the way you are, Trippin. No apology necessary. You are always wonderfully supportive of me.

Thank you.

I guess I'm just feeling a little left out and stupidly full of self pity (I have no reason to be).

[Trippin2.0]

Pity parties aren't 100% bad, at least having one now and then means we give a damn about ourselves.


I hate feeling left out, so I empathize with you.


PS. Thank u 😊

[shezbut]

((((sophiesmom))))

No, sophiesmom, I don't think that you've said or done anything offensive on PC.

I often feel like you do ~ as though people are irritated by me or something. I don't have any evidence that supports my fears....but the feeling is so strong, it's hard to not take seriously!

Honestly, I think that you are a terrific member of our community.

[barbella]

I don't think I know you sophiesmom, but I am sure I've seen some of your posts. I am sorry if I haven't replied. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed and like I don't have to resources to respond to people. Maybe others are in that same boat?
I do know what you mean though. Sometimes people haven't replied to posts I've made and it doesn't feel great. I do try not to take it personally but that can take some effort.
I really wish you well though.

[Frankbtl]

Hi sophiesmom

Although we haven't really talked.............I've never seen you being offensive or any reason at all people might dislike you
Getting less/different responses if that happens...........may be down to plenty of things other than personal judgements on you e.g. if you mention your children in a thread people without children may not always answer if they aren't familiar with that situation, if you put up a thread when less people are about, if the people who would answer aren't online at the time, if people relate to what you're saying completely/really feel for you because they feel exactly the same they may not answer because they themselves have no answers..............
So please try not to feel self conscious about what you post...........you deserve real credit for reaching out, for expressing the way you feel, for being so open and honest and that should be an inspiration to others on here too who might have difficulty with that

From me.......please keep being you, and kudos for being you

Alison

[Chyialee]

Dear Sophie'smom:

I heart you. And your "box o'wine, cause I'm classy like that" had me .

Trippin, I think you're smart. Find myself often agreeing a LOT w/what you say. And should say so more often, that's so.

THe rest o'y'all I don't much e-know....but then, it's a lil around here sometimes & if I'm feeling shy, I don't say a lot.

SM; I admire your level-headedness, as well.

xo
Chyia, just sayin'

You certainly haven't offended me SM, if I haven't responded to your posts it will be because I don't have anything useful to offer. Sometimes I simply leave hugs.

I always feel very vulnerable myself when I post, and if I don't get many responses it is disheartening, but it's very unlikely to be personal - this is what I tell myself. Seems from the replies a few of us might feel the same way.

[TishaBuv]

I SophiesMom

[Fuzzybear]

I like you, and I've never been offended by anything you've written

Keep on being you

I am overwhelmed by you all. Thank you.

It's true I was feeling a little left out of things....I see so many responses for so many other threads. I just seem to have the ability to shut things down when I say anything.

I am, maybe, overly concise and that comes across as rude sometimes. I am on another forum and it happens to me there, too. So it must be me.

However, please know that I am not standoffish in real life. But I do feel very vulnerable here, especially. Probably because I treat this place like a therapist couch and I shouldn't.

Thanks and hugs to all of you. You are the best.

[Chyialee]

SM, I enjoy your employing of "concise". And it's never been snippy-OTT, that I've seen (and I read a lot -- was reading for over a yr before I ever signed up here; yeah, over-caution thy name is Chyia).
To me it just shows as your having a preference for having things clearly stated. I admire that because -- Me too.

Uhm, and I PM'd you a while back w/a question kionda out of left field, and you didn't freak out & were v even-headed about it all.

Fabulous qualities, my friend.

xxoo

Chyia, the insomniac (migrainig!) Apie. Yeah, I know, lol

[Frankbtl]

Hi sophiesmom,

Nothing AT ALL wrong with being concise!!!
And I certainly wouldn't say you're overly concise- if there is such a thing!! And I definitely don't think you come across as rude!!
People express themselves all sorts of different ways, and I certainly aren't going to be judging people negatively on being very/a little/not at all concise.............expression is expression and expression is good.
If people express themselves differently than others, that doesn't need to make them wrong, just different

It might mean that you get more people who express themselves concisely just the same as you do answering your threads, because they might relate better..........meaning depending on the time you're putting up threads, depending on the types of people online at the time, you might get less replies than some people putting up differently written threads, but then at other times you may well get more replies than other people putting up differently written threads.

But if it's any consultation about whether people might be disliking you because they haven't answered your threads...........of the threads I've read and not replied to, that's never, ever been because I dislike the person...........I've had no reason to dislike anyone..........it will be more because I can't think of anything that might help, or because I know people can/will reply much better than I could, because it's hard to "put myself in their place"..........whatever, but definitely not because I dislike them. And I'm sure that would be true for plenty of others on here too

But to reiterate sophiesmom , I, for one, have never, ever seen you as in any way as unlikable

Alison

Thank you all again, so much, for the uplifting comments. Alison, the "thanks" button on your post isn't there for me (just the hugs button?), so a personal thank you. I love how positive you are, it's always a joy.

Now I will end my pity party so that nobody rolls their eyes and tells me to get over myself, already!

Group hug!
(Yes. Still no idea how to do the emoji thing...Ugh. This "internet" fad...when will it end?)

[Chyialee]

The emoji thing? Sophie'smom, you crack me up

K, at the top of the window wherein you are typing your post, there shd be a lil smile-guy at the far-ish right. Click on him, and a whole window of smilies and emojis will open.
Tres fun.
And sometimes a pic is worth a bajillion words...concise !
lol

Chyia

Originally Posted by Chyialee

The emoji thing? Sophie'smom, you crack me up

K, at the top of the window wherein you are typing your post, there shd be a lil smile-guy at the far-ish right. Click on him, and a whole window of smilies and emojis will open.
Tres fun.
And sometimes a pic is worth a bajillion words...concise !
lol

Chyia

Thanks Chyia!

Sadly, I have no little smile-guy to click on

I have been rejected by emoticons....

[Travelinglady]

((((sophiesmom))))

I get into these "nobody loves me" spells sometimes, too. I know my computer doesn't like me.

You're okay. Don't let yourself tell yourself otherwise. Okay?

[Macavity]

Could just be coping with underlying pain and then due to feeling bad projecting it onto others or feeling insecure towards others.

Try looking into self-acceptance and learning to accept oneself and ones emotions. It'll really help.

A great book on this is called The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown, check it out on Amazon.

Deep down, you're okay