Originally Posted by CANDC

TishaBuv,
I hear you. It reminds me of how the more I focus on the "problem" or worry or anxiety the more I get pulled into it. Mindfulness helps me get perspective on things. This is a person that has spent most of their life doing mindfulness in health settings and MIT so they have an interesting perspective

I'm halfway through this video. Thank you for posting it. @CANDC

Listened to an interview with Kristen Neff on Sharon Salzberg's podcast Metta Hour. She said that self pity as well as self indulgence is the opposite of self compassion.

Ep. 159 – Kristin Neff - Metta Hour with Sharon Salzberg | Podcast on Spotify

[Brego]

I like to reach out sometimes. I’m actually thinking of going somewhere to get therapy. The only thing was that their coverage of Medicare was not on the page. I did not want to call them. I felt insecure enough. Somewhere along the road I will come to understand that other people mean their statements benignly most of the time. There is no backhanded compliment and I can overcome my inner dementors. En lieu of self-compassion, I am giving myself a break to enjoy the moment instead of trying to live in the future. Finding myself, self-discovery, maybe I could find a lifestyle change. Let’s not get too ahead of ourselves here, I would just like to become a better me, not someone who wishes to become a totally different person — that is not anymore. I cannot live in the shadow of who I wish I could be.