[Eleny]

I hope this doesn’t sound superficial but when I’m on a night out and I see a guy checking out my friends and not me it causes me a lot of pain. I am not bad looking but it immediately makes me think I’m ugly and worthless and I’ll never find anyone. It also makes me want to go home, and I think about it after for a long time. Do secure people feel similarly or is this just pure insecurity?
Thank you

[ArcheM]

I feel that insecure is just human. I'd be way more concerned if attention and esteem of other people didn't matter to you at all.

However, knowing men, as a man, I really find it hard to believe that nobody is checking you out. And I mean it just as - well, I think "checking out" is sort of an automatic impulse that's constantly going on. To me it sounds like you're only noticing - and focusing on - people looking at your friends... Which is... Well, it might be a problem, depending on how you look at it...

[MickeyCheeky]

Perhaps you're just being insecure You might need to work on it...

Originally Posted by Eleny

I hope this doesn’t sound superficial but when I’m on a night out and I see a guy checking out my friends and not me it causes me a lot of pain. I am not bad looking but it immediately makes me think I’m ugly and worthless and I’ll never find anyone. It also makes me want to go home, and I think about it after for a long time. Do secure people feel similarly or is this just pure insecurity?
Thank you

I think you are going overboard ... it may mean none of those things ... take a deep breath ... if you yourself feel beautiful others will think the same

[GrandMasterJamJam]

I'm checking you out right now. Daaaamn girlll, what a sexy profile page; Let me look at them statistics.

[Whalewatcher85]

Your friends may be the kind that turn heads in a bar, but the men that are checking them out may not be the type of men you would even want to know. Your beauty will be discovered by someone looking for more than just a pretty face in a club. Think deeper than that, and be yourself. Your inner beauty will shine and you will attract the right person who is drawn to your confidence and comfort being you. Don't worry about who finds you attractive, but instead think about who is attractive to you, and what you are looking for. You don't need to place value on yourself based on random people out in a bar or club, think about the things you like to do and enjoy doing these things. This is where your beauty will shine through and people will see you for the beautiful person you are.