[Zedsdead]

I'm looking to start healing from a life of abuse. I just escaped an abusive relationship... and during my time in therapy and by reading, I realized that my parents were abusive, and both my long term relationships.

Now at 27 years old with 3 children to take care of, I want to really concentrate on myself to heal, be the best that I can and try to reduce the effects of the abuse.

Where do I start? I have seen some improvement, just in the fact that I chose to leave my partner and stay away.. but sometimes I feel I don't know who the real me is.

Any books? Tips?

I struggle mostly with anxiety. I get very anxious talking to people, attending and trying new things is extremely uncomfortable for me. That is definitely something I would like to change.

I would just like to find myself as I feel a little lost at times.

[Skeezyks]

I'm sorry I don't have any particularly useful tips or books recommendations for you. But I send hugs with the hope you will be able to find a pathway toward continuing improvement & self-realization.

Hi ZedsDead, I agree with you that leaving your partner and staying away is huge. You should be proud of that because it is a hard thing to do. Many people struggle with that part. I also think it's great that you want to focus on healing yourself, for yourself and your kids! That is wonderful, pat yourself on the back for that, too, because some people don't have the awareness that they need to heal, or the desire.

In terms of books for finding out who you are, learning about yourself, and on social anxiety, I'm not entirely sure what you're looking for, but there are a LOT of books on stuff like that, programs, and online resources too. I would honestly suggest a google search, or looking in the self help section of your library or bookstore.

I will tell you, for a long time, I also didn't really know who I was. I didn't know things like, what I wanted. What I truly liked as opposed to what I wish I liked...I really had to sort that stuff out. Maybe journaling might help you. It helped me. Also, I would gently tell you, that this kind of stuff, you might find that it takes a while to get to where you want to be, some days. Other days, you might find you're making more progress. So be kind and gentle to yourself, and remember that this kind of work takes patience and persistence.

Have a great night. You're doing wonderful work, Zedsdead.

[Sassandclass]

Hey
Books I have found truly helpful towards self discovery are:

“The Gifts of Imperfection”

“The Assertiveness Workbook”

“Codependency for dummies”

Those helped me to be a stronger woman. They aided in healing past hurts and they helped me be who I knew I was capable of being.

I wish you all the best!!!! You are capable of so much. I truly believe that

[profound_betrayal]

Originally Posted by Sassandclass

Hey
Books I have found truly helpful towards self discovery are:

“The Gifts of Imperfection”

“The Assertiveness Workbook”

“Codependency for dummies”

Those helped me to be a stronger woman. They aided in healing past hurts and they helped me be who I knew I was capable of being.

I wish you all the best!!!! You are capable of so much. I truly believe that

Always great to hear a success story thanks for the refs. too