Gaining self esteem

Buffy01 · Dec 30, 2018 at 07:08 PM

How does a person gain self esteem? I had read lot of books and YouTube video. What step would I need to take to have self esteem!

Dec 30, 2018 at 10:18 PM

Tips for Building Self-Esteem

That's an article with strategies.

Here's my own personal method of building or maintaining my self-esteem:

*tell myself every day that my worth is intrinsic no matter what happens
*write down 3 things I like about myself every night and read them first thing in the morning before I get out of bed
*write down 5 things I'm grateful for every day
*daily guided meditation on good thoughts and good energy
*go on adventures (big or small)...push beyond my comfort zone
*when I think terrible things about myself, I remind myself that these are only thoughts, I do not have to believe them. Remember that I remain a valuable and powerful being in the Universe.
*do kind things for others just because
*spend time with positive people who value themselves
*limit or avoid time with negative, hateful people
*take time to remember any nice thing anyone ever said or did for me
*indulge my inner child (safely) just because, e.g splash in a puddle, do a silly dance, sing out loud, buy a goofy item just because it makes me smile etc

Buffy01 · Dec 31, 2018 at 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by HopefullyLost1211

Tips for Building Self-Esteem

That's an article with strategies.

Here's my own personal method of building or maintaining my self-esteem:

*tell myself every day that my worth is intrinsic no matter what happens
*write down 3 things I like about myself every night and read them first thing in the morning before I get out of bed
*write down 5 things I'm grateful for every day
*daily guided meditation on good thoughts and good energy
*go on adventures (big or small)...push beyond my comfort zone
*when I think terrible things about myself, I remind myself that these are only thoughts, I do not have to believe them. Remember that I remain a valuable and powerful being in the Universe.
*do kind things for others just because
*spend time with positive people who value themselves
*limit or avoid time with negative, hateful people
*take time to remember any nice thing anyone ever said or did for me
*indulge my inner child (safely) just because, e.g splash in a puddle, do a silly dance, sing out loud, buy a goofy item just because it makes me smile etc

I will try to use those.

mountainstream · Apr 09, 2019 at 04:11 PM

Thank you for sharing.

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Originally Posted by Anonymous57363

Tips for Building Self-Esteem

That's an article with strategies.

Here's my own personal method of building or maintaining my self-esteem:

*tell myself every day that my worth is intrinsic no matter what happens
*write down 3 things I like about myself every night and read them first thing in the morning before I get out of bed
*write down 5 things I'm grateful for every day
*daily guided meditation on good thoughts and good energy
*go on adventures (big or small)...push beyond my comfort zone
*when I think terrible things about myself, I remind myself that these are only thoughts, I do not have to believe them. Remember that I remain a valuable and powerful being in the Universe.
*do kind things for others just because
*spend time with positive people who value themselves
*limit or avoid time with negative, hateful people
*take time to remember any nice thing anyone ever said or did for me
*indulge my inner child (safely) just because, e.g splash in a puddle, do a silly dance, sing out loud, buy a goofy item just because it makes me smile etc

Fuzzybear · Apr 16, 2019 at 11:08 PM

Hugs and kindness to all in this thread from me

Buffy01 · May 07, 2019 at 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Hugs and kindness to all in this thread from me

Thank you!

Buffy01 · May 07, 2019 at 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by mountainstream

Thank you for sharing.

It is awesome advice!

Buffy01 · May 07, 2019 at 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Buffy01

It is awesome advice!

Thank you

Fuzzybear · Jan 29, 2020 at 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Anonymous57363

Tips for Building Self-Esteem

That's an article with strategies.

Here's my own personal method of building or maintaining my self-esteem:

*tell myself every day that my worth is intrinsic no matter what happens
*write down 3 things I like about myself every night and read them first thing in the morning before I get out of bed
*write down 5 things I'm grateful for every day
*daily guided meditation on good thoughts and good energy
*go on adventures (big or small)...push beyond my comfort zone
*when I think terrible things about myself, I remind myself that these are only thoughts, I do not have to believe them. Remember that I remain a valuable and powerful being in the Universe.
*do kind things for others just because
*spend time with positive people who value themselves
*limit or avoid time with negative, hateful people
*take time to remember any nice thing anyone ever said or did for me
*indulge my inner child (safely) just because, e.g splash in a puddle, do a silly dance, sing out loud, buy a goofy item just because it makes me smile etc

Buffy01 · Jan 31, 2020 at 09:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

That great advice!

Dec 30, 2018 at 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Buffy01

How does a person gain self esteem? I had read lot of books and YouTube video. What step would I need to take to have self esteem!

Great goal! I believe that a positive relationship with the self is the foundation for peace and happiness. Good luck Buffy

Buffy01 · Dec 31, 2018 at 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by HopefullyLost1211

Great goal! I believe that a positive relationship with the self is the foundation for peace and happiness. Good luck Buffy

Thank you! I am starting on my new year reap early!

Dec 31, 2018 at 02:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Buffy01

How does a person gain self esteem? I had read lot of books and YouTube video. What step would I need to take to have self esteem!

It seems to me self-esteem is more of a perception of self more than anything else. You could be good at many things but not be confident. Now the question is how to change that perception? I don't know.

Buffy01 · Dec 31, 2018 at 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Sans Nom

It seems to me self-esteem is more of a perception of self more than anything else. You could be good at many things but not be confident. Now the question is how to change that perception? I don't know.

I will keep that in mind!

Dec 31, 2018 at 03:58 PM

I find that for me, self esteem is an ongoing process. Things I have done / things I do: face something I'm nervous about but that I want to do (this can also have the opposite effect. it's best to be careful with this imo), read about self esteem, exercise, be around people who I like and who like me and are nice (people who build you up). Also coming to terms that its not all my fault that I struggle. When I learned about ableism (and how society is not set up for those with any kind of disability), sexism (patriarchal society), my upbringing (not to blame my parents now, but they were not a good fit for me growing up)...it was a really empowering feeling.

Buffy01 · Dec 31, 2018 at 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by KnitChick

I find that for me, self esteem is an ongoing process. Things I have done / things I do: face something I'm nervous about but that I want to do (this can also have the opposite effect. it's best to be careful with this imo), read about self esteem, exercise, be around people who I like and who like me and are nice (people who build you up). Also coming to terms that its not all my fault that I struggle. When I learned about ableism (and how society is not set up for those with any kind of disability), sexism (patriarchal society), my upbringing (not to blame my parents now, but they were not a good fit for me growing up)...it was a really empowering feeling.

Thank you! I will keep that in mind.

sarahsweets · Jan 02, 2019 at 05:00 AM

Try not to judge yourself by your mistakes.

Buffy01 · Jan 02, 2019 at 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets

Try not to judge yourself by your mistakes.

That going to be hard!

Aviza · Jan 04, 2019 at 05:10 AM

I looked myself in the eye, using a mirror usually in the bathroom, and say affirmations. I'm beautiful, I have an excellant memory, and I repeat them over and over until I feel them. Usually a few minutes each day.

Buffy01 · Jan 07, 2019 at 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Aviza

I looked myself in the eye, using a mirror usually in the bathroom, and say affirmations. I'm beautiful, I have an excellant memory, and I repeat them over and over until I feel them. Usually a few minutes each day.

I am already doing that! I have positive quotes that I say to myself.

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Aviza Magnate Member Since Jan 2013 Location: Midwest Posts: 2,456 11 86 hugs given	Jan 04, 2019 at 05:10 AM #19 I looked myself in the eye, using a mirror usually in the bathroom, and say affirmations. I'm beautiful, I have an excellant memory, and I repeat them over and over until I feel them. Usually a few minutes each day. __________________ Son: 14, 12/15/2009 R.I.P. Daughter: 20 Diagnosis: Bipolar with Psychosis. Latuda 100 mgs.
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