[x_BabyG_x]

This is exactly what i need to do, If Im ever going to get better. i need to love myself, because its actual physical HATE at the moment, and its breaking and destroying everything around me.

How do you start to learn to love yourself when you cant even look in the mirror anymore?

babyg xXx

[altonwoodsdrphil]

I can strongly relate to what you're saying BabyG, I tried and tried to "love myself" to no avail... whats finally helped me the most was'nt figuring out how to "love myself," it's knowing that I am loved, and being able to reflect that love back to others,and in the process "love what is love IN me". We can have a "cup that runneth over" with love but we need to be holding the cup under the right source. who is love? is it us? seems unlikely...(or "unlovely") who loves you? who do you love? get yourself "in the loop" somehow...

[skeeweeaka]

I think that is a huge problem for me as well... I think it involves letting go of some of the fear and putting yourself out there more, trusting the people in your life more, and letting go of the hurts, pains, and resentments that we carry with us. Stop blaming yourself for not loving yourself or for not being good enough... Know that you are good enough, and lovable enough, noone is perfect...that is the key... Perfection does not exist here on earth....lower your expectations of yourself and others...a hard thing to do for me...but something that I am working on every day... Yes, it is hard to look in the mirror still, but I now feel that I deserve to be treated with respect and put boundaries in place to deal with those people who for whatever reason want to step on my boundaries...

TJ