[mixedup_emotions]

Considering I have a session tomorrow where we are going to be exploring some very sensitive SA issues of the past....I felt it was necessary to e-mail him to let him know how ticked off I was about how things unfolded today....because I want to clear the air before going into tomorrow's session.

I e-mailed him saying, "I figured it's worth informing you that I am extremely disappointed at the moment that you were not able to provide me with a few minutes of your time so that I could make sure that the call was made in a way that was safest for me. Having DYFS park directly in front of my house was not what I had expected to happen. New lesson learned."

He could take the time to send me e-mails pushing me to make the call or else he would....but he couldn't give me 5 minutes of his time to talk to me about my concerns first before making the call.

I am pissed.

[deliquesce]

hey sweetie - i'm not sure i really understand. are you saying T sent you an email, but refused to give you a call? did you specifically ask him to call you, but he sent you an email instead?
my first impression is that he got caught up elsewhere and couldn't make that call, but sent an email instead (e.g., my old T sometimes sent me emails while he was in a conference). but i'm not really sure about what's going on here - what the circumstances were.

i think you did a good job to express yourself, though. and i hope you can clear it up, so you feel safe enough to disclose today. not that there is pressure to disclose today, just that you need to feel safe before you disclose. and i hope T can work with you towards that.

[deliquesce]

ok - i just read your other thread.

i would be FURIOUS!!!! oh my gosh. i'm so proud of you for sending that email, i probably would have just quit with T right then and there.

what he said "if you don't do it, then i will" is like completely taking control of the situation away from you. and then expecting you only to call back to let him know you've done it. what a jerk .

i hope he is able to clear the air with you today. i know he is your T, and you usually have a good relationship with him, but right now i am SO MAD and triggered on your behalf.

i have zero idea on why he thought his response would have been appropriate.

*deep breath*

to address your other concern (why they parked in front of your house) - over here at least, these is something quite common to do. something about privacy for the family, and also possible safety for the workers who go into that house. i think it was just a coincidence that it was your house (and maybe also that they dropped by to leave a note?), it could have been anyone's house on that street.

also, i'm glad those children felt comfortable enough to disclose that you stopped them. it sounds like they are cooperating and not being overwhelmed by what is happening.

i think you've done such a brave and important thing, sweetie. i cannot stress how proud i am of you, and how much in awe, and how grateful i am that there are people like you out there who are willing not to turn a blind eye to this sort of stuff.

[mixedup_emotions]

Thanks for the reassurance....

I am thinking about sending another message to my T telling him that I need him to call me tomorrow BEFORE our session so we can clear the air...because I don't believe the session will be worth my time or money as I don't feel safe or cared for.

[Sannah]

So what happened?