[jumpingjellybeans]

Content warning: mention of sexual assault, not graphic.

Possible trigger:

I was raped multiple times in 2015 by the same man.

He was in the military at the time and he helped me when I was homeless. This was all after my mother died and I was kicked out by my brothers. I didn't give the full report on everything that happened and I don't know that I will ever be comfortable enough disclosing it. I went to report another incident from 2019 in June of this year. It came out through legal avenues that I had had a case with CID about the first dude. I had decided not to be apart of the whole thing because I had moved 5k miles away, across the world, and wanted to leave that whole thing behind me. ...so I asked the investigator what ever had come of my abuser from 2015.

He was founded.

And that is why he got kicked out of the military.

He was founded, got married, had another kid, has a nice house, lives care free in a place that I will never be able to step foot again because of him.

But he was founded and I was believed and now I can move on, right?

I want the girl I was before him back. I miss her. But hey, at least I'm somewhat closer to getting closure, right?

[Yaowen]

I am so very sorry that happened to you. How utterly heartbreaking! I think it is completely understandable that you want the girl you were before that man. You carry such a heavy, heavy burden. I wish I knew how to lighten your burdens!

[Fuzzybear]

[Open Eyes]

When someone takes advantage of someone young and naive they are weak scum. You have now learned the reality that some people can never be trusted. You are still you, but now you are wise that there are bad people out there in the world.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by jumpingjellybeans

Content warning: mention of sexual assault, not graphic.

Possible trigger:

I was raped multiple times in 2015 by the same man.

He was in the military at the time and he helped me when I was homeless. This was all after my mother died and I was kicked out by my brothers. I didn't give the full report on everything that happened and I don't know that I will ever be comfortable enough disclosing it. I went to report another incident from 2019 in June of this year. It came out through legal avenues that I had had a case with CID about the first dude. I had decided not to be apart of the whole thing because I had moved 5k miles away, across the world, and wanted to leave that whole thing behind me. ...so I asked the investigator what ever had come of my abuser from 2015.

He was founded.

And that is why he got kicked out of the military.

He was founded, got married, had another kid, has a nice house, lives care free in a place that I will never be able to step foot again because of him.

But he was founded and I was believed and now I can move on, right?

I want the girl I was before him back. I miss her. But hey, at least I'm somewhat closer to getting closure, right?

I’m sorry that you ever had to go through all that. I hope that you can find away to begin healing process.

[xIxAmxSadx]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I know it can be so hard to watch the ones who abused us live normal and successful lives like nothing happened. I'm glad you got one step closer to closure. I assure you the girl you were still resides inside you and she needs your love <3

[jumpingjellybeans]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

When someone takes advantage of someone young and naive they are weak scum. You have now learned the reality that some people can never be trusted. You are still you, but now you are wise that there are bad people out there in the world.

I appreciate the positive support on this thread. I must admit that this particular comment doesn't inspire much confidence in people's understanding of the situation. I think there were assumptions made in this reply, and I can't shake the feeling it was a bit "victim blame-y." Maybe this wasn't your intention, but wording things correctly is important so avoid confrontation and potentially hurt feelings. I'm not hurt by the comment but I did want to share my stance on it. Thank you.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by jumpingjellybeans

I appreciate the positive support on this thread. I must admit that this particular comment doesn't inspire much confidence in people's understanding of the situation. I think there were assumptions made in this reply, and I can't shake the feeling it was a bit "victim blame-y." Maybe this wasn't your intention, but wording things correctly is important so avoid confrontation and potentially hurt feelings. I'm not hurt by the comment but I did want to share my stance on it. Thank you.

I also feel that too many assumptions are not helpful

Completely agree with you that wording things carefully and correctly is vitally important.

''Victim blaming'' (even if it might not be intentional) is harmful and the opposite of ''intelligent'' and ''strong''... imho.

Thank you for your honest feedback, I appreciate it. I hope you keep posting.

My best to you

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Yaowen

I am so very sorry that happened to you. How utterly heartbreaking! I think it is completely understandable that you want the girl you were before that man. You carry such a heavy, heavy burden. I wish I knew how to lighten your burdens!

That is great advice.

[jumpingjellybeans]

Originally Posted by Buffy01

That is great advice.

They gave great advice, yes. I acknowledged the good posts in my piece earlier with the opening line.

[Fuzzybear]

''I want the girl I was before him back. I miss her'' I know what you mean

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by jumpingjellybeans

They gave great advice, yes. I acknowledged the good posts in my piece earlier with the opening line.

I think we all want to go being the person we were before the trauma happened.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

When someone takes advantage of someone young and naive they are weak scum. You have now learned the reality that some people can never be trusted. You are still you, but now you are wise that there are bad people out there in the world.

That is very true

[FooZe]

This thread is being closed at the OP's request.