abusive boyfriend

My daughter has a birth sibling with whom she spends time. Yesterday they came here with the sister's baby. I had sister in foster care also. Anyway, when my daughter brought the sister home the boyfriend went nuts and was drinking and yelling and threatening and being really mean to the sister. She told my daughter that if she left he would hit her. He grabbed this beautiful 4 month old baby out of the house and put on this rickey porch where he was smoking. He told the sister to fin leave. I tried to speak with the sister later and she said it was just an argument. Yeah right!!! She hung up on me so I called the police. Of course they both deny anything happened. The sister is so used to this way of life. I tried to tell her that if she stayed in an abusive relationship she might lose her baby to foster care just as she was, and her parents before her.

Today I called child protective services and gave them a head's up. This family is well known and not in a positive way. I am obsessed today with wanting to keep mom and baby safe and get them the heck out of that apartment. And there really isn't anything more I can do.

Well you did talk to her and called the police, and called child protective services, that is basically all you can do, you did your best, know you just have to keep hoping that she gets out of that relationship, and out of that apartment. All you can really do now, is be there for her when she gets upset, or when he abuses her and she comes to you, then you can tell her again that she could loose her baby, he can abuse the baby to when the baby got older, and also it can and probably will get worse, and lastly that she needs to get out of that relationship, it is not a healthy environment, but you did all you can do, and now is just to be there for her when she needs you, and hope that she makes the right choice by getting out of that relationship. I hope it works out for you and her, and the baby. I really do.