[Lexicon78]

My sis won't quit defending the family who has abused her. She says she wasn't abused, but i remember when 6 family members ganged up on her and beat the hell out of her! I hid in my closet and started screaming that it was so bad! I just don't deal with that too well. Anyways, I just don't understand how she can forgive so easily for something like that.

[kimmydawn]

(((((((((lexicon))))))))))) i know that's hard for you to hear and see. however, you should never try to have another abuse survivor remember what they're not ready to because you want or need for them to. i learned this with my baby brother. i risked hurting him because i wanted an ally? t pointed out to me that, while it might've been helpful to me, he was also a survivor and i could be pushing what he couldn't remember FOR A REASON. it stopped me in my tracks.

she's not remembering/dealing for a reason. she's doing what she needs to right now, whether you feel it's healthy or not. i know that's a paralyzing feeling. i know it's difficult to hear her defend. can you come up with a compromise that she tries to mind that around you, as you two still aren't on the same page? that's what i did with my brother.

talk with us here. talk with a t or minister or friend. you have EVERY right to feel what you're feeling and be concerned for your sister. however, i would advise against "pushing" memory and feeling onto her.

(((((((((((((((lexicon))))))))))))))))))

be safe,

kd