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Nov 30, 2010, 09:00 AM
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My mother is going to get me a "mother's pride" ring for my 16th birthday to prove how much she loves me and how proud she is apparently.
I find this gift very inappropriate and offensive as well.. I really don't want her gifts, especially not the ones that are paid for by her weirdo boyfriend. I tried to tell my Dad this and he looked down upon her actions; just shook his head and sighed.. However he said to accept it regardless and wear it as an accessory for dressing up and to forget about the whole "mother's pride" thing that she's trying to attach to it. I don't think I can do that. I want to tell her not to bother - get it out early since my birthday is 5 months away.. but I'm too much of a coward to say anything..
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#2
Nov 30, 2010, 01:45 PM
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So you really don't have much of a relationship with her?
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Nov 30, 2010, 01:58 PM
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No. Our history is full of neglect and emotional abuse. She witnessed me being physically abused and completely ignored it, even when knives were being thrown. She thinks she did nothing wrong to this day, thinks nothing bad ever happened. She lies about me, calls me names and has stolen money from me. In her mind she is supposed to be able to lean on me for emotional support and I'm supposed to help her through her problems.
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Nov 30, 2010, 02:05 PM
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No wonder you don't want any gift from her, especially one where she is attached phoney baloney to it. Do you think that she will actually follow through?
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Nov 30, 2010, 05:22 PM
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Well half of me thinks she's all talk.. but on the other hand I put the pieces together.. Her boyfriend has more money than he knows what to do with and he's insistent on having us get along since he's unaware of everything that went on in the past. I know she isn't coming up with this money by herself as she has no job, and last Christmas a few expensive presents were pushed upon me as well, paid for by him. My mother has gotten me t-shirts and wooden poster type things that either talk about the bond between a mother and her daughter or claim how much daughter loves her mom. This ring would be a step up from that if anything.
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Dec 01, 2010, 03:15 AM
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So what do you think that you are going to do?
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Dec 01, 2010, 03:27 AM
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humph.....sounds like my mom...only i'm 27 now and my moms passed away now and my dads in state hospital and my stepdad is is livin in his truck somewhere hidin from the IRS. but in the end we did repair our relationship not fully but we did what we could. now if she didn't get sick and she was still here today......who knows but chances are we probably would not be speaking to each other. no one in the family would be speaking to each other probably if it wasn't for her getting sick.
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Dec 01, 2010, 08:37 AM
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What am I going to do..? Well I don't know. I don't have the courage to outright tell her to not bother. I was hoping my Dad was gonna do that for me but he wants me to forget it's from her and accept it but I can't do that. I don't know how to go about telling her.. it's funny.. She did all this stuff to me regardless of how I ever felt and I'm walking on eggshels trying not to hurt her feelings.
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Dec 01, 2010, 12:00 PM
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Quote:
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