[witchywoman]

My husband and I were having a discussion the other day about my daughter's molestation(14 years ago) and I mentioned that I was raped at 6 and again at 12. He didn't react at all to what I said and I wonder why? It really bothers me but I really don't want to bring it up again. What should I do?

[purple_fins]

I'm so sorry you and your daughter experienced such trauma.

I think that sometimes people avoid going to painful places- in thought, as they don't know how to deal with it. Maybe your husband doesn't know how to deal with such a HUGE subject.
If you need to talk about it and haven't yet, I'd suggest seeking out some kind of counseling first and then perhaps you can have your husband come along for a few sessions so that he can understand better and then learn how best to deal with it for you and for your daughter.

it's like if you never lost your legs-- how would you know what a person in such a situation really needs to hear? it takes learning and understanding.

I wish you much peace and hope you find the path that gets you to where you feel the most comfort.

fins

[madisgram]

i agree with purple fins completely. i like the suggestion of your going outside to discuss this with a counselor and possibly including your hubby some too. this is a real part of you. perhaps your hubby is overwhelmed with what you shared. of course it would have been more helpful it he had engaged in conversation about what happened. but perhaps he is unable to be sympathetic for whatever reason. i can understand why you are baffled by this especially since it's your hubby. maybe he was unable to engage in such a sensitive subject. i don't know.