[seventyeight]

this is my first time posting over here, as i'm a "psychotherapy forum" regular. at any rate, i'm in an abusive relationship, and i'm not sure how to get out of it. i mean, i know how i physically can (find another place, move out, etc.), but there is something psychological going on. there is something that keeps me in this and i just don't know how to break out of it. everyday it's something new from my partner.. flying off the handle, yelling at me, demanding things, telling me i need to "get out" (as she says this isn't my home), calling me names, saying that i'm effed up, etc., etc.

i have an excellent therapist that i've been seeing for almost two years now, but the problem is that my partner sees her too. there is zero chance of me changing to another therapist, she is 100% the person for me other than this issue. my point here is that i've not been talking to her much about all this, becasuse i don't really know how. i guess i don't feel comfortable sharing some of this stuff with her. we talk about deeply personal and embarrassing things (like actually, there's nothing i've not told her before), but on this issue i'm fairly closed.

anyway, just thought i'd post here, and see if anyone has any thoughts. thanks for reading at least..

[cherrygash321]

Sounds a little complicated. Have you ever thought of "couples" counseling with your partner? That way she can help both of you at the same time. (and you still individually if you prefer) If she's a good therapist she'll know how to handle your issues seperate from your partners. Take a chance and let her know how you're feeling about the whole situation. She'll most likely understand and offer up another solution.