[suzzie]

hope this isnt a silly post. cause i dont like getting hit for it. and yelled at. its really hard sometimes.

is it really rude to point at something when youre talking. like to the drawer over there that you are talking about. or the rug over there. stuff like that. i live with someone who gets really mad when i point to anything. even hits me for it. and points angrily right in my face. or will grab my hand angrily to stop me from pointing. i never point at them. just to things.

i didnt think it was rude. i thought it helps to know what im referring to. but now with political correctness and all. maybe its not acceptable to do. and i dont want to be delibarately aggravating someone. maybe im wrong. and need to stop this bad habit.

Hi suzzie,

I'm not too sure what other people think, but I don't think gesturing at objects to point out where they are is a rude thing at all. It can be very helpful, especially if you need to gesture to others what you're talking about...for example, a house. Maybe you need to tell them what house you're talking about, so you point to it. That doesn't seem rude at all.

[Omers]

Doesn't strike me as rude. I know you are not suppost to shove your finger in someones face while talking to them but to point at a specific object? Hitting someone over something like that is uncalled for rude or not.

[Luce]

Sheesh. Suzzie, maybe you could POINT out to this person that while gesturing towards objects isn't against the law, physical assault is.

As far as I am aware pointing is not bad etiquette, and even if it were, hitting another human being for doing it is worse. Hitting people is in very, very bad form indeed.

It sounds like this person has something against pointing. Who knows - maybe it is a trigger for them or something. Unfortunately, there is no subclause that says hitting somebody when you are triggered is acceptable. It is still against the law.

Whether this person is right or wrong about pointing being bad etiquette (in some areas it may be culturally inappropriate, maybe?) this person s definitely in the wrong about hitting somebody (you). They really ought to stop that habit,

but who will tell them that?

[Sannah]

Suzzie, you are being abused in your home. This person doesn't sound stable at all.

[QUEEN OF WANDS]

no it is not rude..i got out of a relationship that was kinda like that and i can tell you the other person is not stable ,like Sannah said, and it will only get worse,,it will hurt to end it at first but you will heal and become a person not questioning herself over little actions that are normal..regain your self-esteem ,it is very worth it..it will get worse so please leave now,,be strong

[Irine]

WTF OF COURSE POINTING IS NOT BAD OR RUDE

What is horrible is hitting you stc. I hope you will find how to stop this!

[hopefully21]

Reading this upsets me and you did nothing wrong. You can do whatever you want point dont point laugh ect.......I do know one thing tho hitting you is wrong and doesnt give anybody cause to hit you even if you did point your finger in their face (which i know you didnt) still the point remains you are not in the wrong. ::Hugs::

[sharon123]

He has problems and issues that have nothing to do with you. You are being abused. There is help; abuse hotlines, shelters, etc.....Hope you will check those. I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group, and hear these stories sadly, every day. NO ONE has the right to harm you.

[Tatyana2009]

Pointing at things in your own home -is fine.
Pointing at people - in your own home - or outside - is wrong.
Pointing at things outside of your home - is ok, unless others may confuse it with pointing at people (for example - if you look at a shop window and point at a dress but next to it there is a shop assistant)

Now - the behaviour of your bf is wrong. Even if he does not like what you are doing he should not be agressive with you. Why is it ok for him to point at you? hit you? It isnt. Please sick help - talk to your doctor maybe?

[Yoda]

Originally Posted by Luce

As far as I am aware pointing is not bad etiquette, and even if it were, hitting another human being for doing it is worse. Hitting people is in very, very bad form indeed.

That is what I was going to say. It would be okay to say I don't like it when you point or please stop pointing but hitting is never justified.

[geez]

(((Suzzie))) I grew up that way. I wasn't allowed to point to things as that was considered rude behavior (much like not saying a please or a thankyou). I was 'hit' or yelled at for many things and I can't recall if this was one of the things I was hit for but hitting is wrong. You should not be living this way. I'm so feeling your pain right now. Sending you a million safe hugs and a safe place to be.