[SeptemberMorn]

She's missing her Cousin Bobby, her Rescuer. She won't get to see him for Thanksgiving, either. Hasn't seen him for Thanksgiving since Aunt Helen died. Too, too many years to count.

She's wishing she could talk to her Rescuer about The ***** and the triggers she put in place. Wonder if he has the same triggers? She just KNOWS that if he'd talk to her, they could both do some more healing... together. She wants Cousin Bobby but she doesn't even know where he is!!!

[(JD)]

(((hugs)))

[SeptemberMorn]

You wouldn't happen to have a directory of the Administration for the Presbyterian Church, would you?

[(JD)]

PCA or USA?

[SeptemberMorn]

How would I know? Doesn't matter. If you've got both would you look his name up? Whatever one you've got, doesn't matter. Rev. Robert H. Fernandez.

[(JD)]

http://www.tulip.org/acc/ Reformed (PCA)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Presbyterian_Church_USA contemporary USA sect

[SeptemberMorn]

Can't find NAMES. While scanning the first site, "Westminster" came to mind. Is that the Reformed or the USA Church?

I have a feeling I'm sabotaging myself. WHY???

[SeptemberMorn]

Never mind. I think I might have found something. Waiting for confirmation.

[SeptemberMorn]

Another dead end. Oh, well.

by going to Yahoo then chick on people search then type in Robert in first name and Fernandez for last name you will get 195 robert (bobby) fernandez in the united states. it gives addresses and phone numbers so if you know what state or city he is in you can narrow it down further. good luck.

[SeptemberMorn]

I THINK I FOUND HIM!!! I THINK I FOUND HIM!!!

OMG... Now I'm afraid to call him...

[mrb020377]

I am sorry that you are sad... i am here for you! (((((((((((((((tomi))))))))))))))0

I was the same way when I located a teacher I hadn't heard from in 25 years. So many what if - what if my parents were right? what if the rumors are right? what if she don't like me any more? Gosh there were so many what ifs its not funny. I could have sat there all day in this. So then I took a few breaths and thought ok I already know I can drive myself nuts on this so here goes nothing and I wrote an email letting the person know on the onther end that I once knew someone with that name and I was looking for her. The next day I recieved an email back saying it was indeed her and incleded was some info only her and I knew so that I could relax that I had found her. we have been emailing since. I have her phone number - well I did before katrina hit her in new orleans. luckily she got to safety. But anyway. what Im getting at is----BREATH, BREATH BREATH. then try to bypass the what ifs and dial that phone Im excited for you

[wisewoman]

Honey, if you have found him I am so very happy for you. I am crossing my fingers.

[SeptemberMorn]

Right town, wrong guy. Oh, well. I'm over it now.

Don't know if this will be of any help, but just in case...

Rev. Robert H. Fernandez, Retired Presbyterian Minister showed up on this website.

Maybe you could contact them to see if it's the right guy?

Contact Us E-mail
Press/Event Mgmt.
Rita Brock | 510-459-5123 | rita @ faithvoices.org

Technology
Brian Sarrazin | 510-282-4155 | brian @ faithvoices.org

http://interdependencedeclaration.or...statement.html

and also here...
everyvoice.org

Good luck,

Petunia

[SeptemberMorn]

OMG, Petunia! That sure sounds like it could be him! Do I dare hope??

[Overcastbutclearing]

Hope you found him...let us know please.
Sorry this search has added to your frustrations...
Hang in there!

[SeptemberMorn]

I had already been to those sites when they came up on the Google search I did. Never could find his name. Went back after you posted them and ran a second search and came up with a big fat 0.

IDK, maybe I shouldn't look for him. Don't know how he would react or if I'd trigger old memories. He was a victim with me of the same abuse.

If you Google that name again then click on cached, it will highlight what you typed so you can find his name easier. He was about a quarter of the way down.

I think you should email the people that work there and ask them to forward your email to him. (I don't think they would give you info but they might) That way you don't have to directly "speak" to him. Then if it is him he can contact you! I searched for someone too. It was a long process and I almost gave up but I didn't. I found them and a long lost friendship was reunited.
________________________________________
Signed,

Rev. Dr. Bob Edgar, General Secretary, National Council of Churches
Rabbi David Saperstein, Director Religious Action Center of Reform Judaism
Dr. C. Welton Gaddy, President, The Interfaith Alliance
Rabbi Steven Jacobs, Kol Tikvah
Rev. William G. Sinkford, President, Unitarian Universalist Association of Congregations
Rabbi Arthur Waskow, Director, The Shalom Center
Dr. Nazir Khaja, Chairman, Islamic Information Service
The Rev. Dr. James A. Forbes, Jr., Senior Minister, The Riverside Church, New York City
Joseph C. Hough, Jr., President, Union Theological Seminary in New York
Rev. Peter Laarman, Executive Director, Progressive Christians Uniting
Rev. Meg A. Riley, Director, Washington Office for Advocacy, Unitarian Universalist Association
Dr. Rita Nakashima Brock, Co-Director, Faith Voices for the Common Good
Rev. Jennifer Butler, Director, Faith in Public Life Center
Michael Kieschnick, President Working Assets
Mary E. Hunt, Co-director, Women's Alliance for Theology, Ethics and Ritual (WATER)
Rev. Debra W. Haffner, Director, Religious Institute on Sexual Morality, Justice, and Healing
The Reverend Nathan D Wilson, Minister, Clintonville Christian Church (Disciples of Christ)
Rabbi Michael Lerner, Editor, Tikkun Magazine and National Chair, The Network of Spiritual Progressives
Emilie M. Townes, Andrew W. Mellon Professor of African American Religion & Theology, Yale University Divinity School
Edith Beaujon, Riverside Church
Tomas Gonzalez, Director, Oscar Romero Peace & Justice Center
Kety Esquivel, Executive Director, CrossLeft.org
Jennifer H Kottler, Deputy Director, Protestants for the Common Good
Raymond G. Helmick, S.J., Instructor in Conflict Resolution, Department of Theology, Boston College
Rev. Jim Burklo, Pastor, Sausalito Presbyterian Church, and author, OPEN CHRISTIANITY
Manjit Singh, Sikh American
Rev. Dr. Rick Schlosser, Executive Director, California Council of Churches and California Church IMPACT
Elizabeth Sholes, Director of Public Policy, California Council of Churches and California Church IMPACT
Kevin Lewis, Assoc Prof of Religious Studies, Univ of South Carolina
Sarah-Sunshine Snider, Master of Divinity Student, Starr King School for the Ministry
The Revd. John A. Bell, Associate Pastor - Church of St.Savior, San Francisco, CA
Yosef Atzulit Lopez-Hineynu, Jewish
Rev. Stephen J. Mather, Minister, Coronado Community Church, Coronado, California
Rev. Robert H. Fernandez, Retired Presbyterian Minister

[SeptemberMorn]

Writing them and asking them to forward my letter to him sounds like the way to go. It worked once before when I was looking for my half siblings. That way, it's up to him whether he's comfortable getting back in touch with me or not.

Well... I learned something new about Google and doing searches. Never knew what "cached" meant or bothered to find out. Shame on me! LOL

Thanks, Petunia! I'll let you know if I hear from him.

[hillbunnyb]

Owwww, I didn't know what cached meant either... thanks.

Good luck on your search Septy.

[(JD)]

not sure you found who you were looking for... City? Church name? http://www.pcanet.org/directory.asp PCA churches in CA. Even if he is retired. they would be able to help find him.

http://dmoz.org/Society/Religion_and.../Presbyteries/ directory of churches USA

[SeptemberMorn]

I've stopped looking for the time being. Too many doubts, second thoughts and fears but thanks for the info. I'm saving it.