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#1
Aug 24, 2011, 07:31 AM
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for first time I said to my friend I Was raped
 no more disocciating from it and im[ terrified please help me
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Aug 24, 2011, 08:00 AM
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We're sorry you feel scared! That was very brave of you to tell your friend! We hope you can feel proud of yourself for being able to tell the truth. Safe
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Aug 24, 2011, 08:30 AM
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I know it's scary to start talking about trauma, but it will eventually mean less fear for you. I hope that it helps to know that you're not alone. Safe hugs to you, of course.
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"Just as a jewel that has been buried in the earth for a million years is not discolored or harmed, in the same way this noble heart is not affected by all of our kicking and screaming. The jewel can be brought out into the light at any time, and it will glow as brilliantly as if nothing had ever happened. No matter how committed we are to unkindness, selfishness, or greed, the genuine heart of bodhichitta cannot be lost. It is here in all that lives, never marred and completely whole."
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Aug 24, 2011, 08:44 AM
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Safe hugs.
This is a good place for starting to speak the unspeakable.
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There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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Aug 24, 2011, 08:51 AM
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Wow - how brave to tell this to someone and I am so sorry this horrible thing happended to you. Remind yourself that although the feelings and thoughts are very real, it is not happening now - feelings and thoughts are always like waves, they come and then they go again - Hugs to you - SD
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Aug 24, 2011, 09:19 AM
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The beginning of healing from a trauma is not only admitting that something bad happened but to be validated. Having someone say to you, "I believe you"
is very important because we often try very hard to overcome trauma by surpressing and hiding it. And more importantly, what we do not realize is how the emotions of the event get trapped and surpressed as well. Often we are alone when a tramatic event occurs and that too makes it very difficult to process as we had no witness or rescuer. I havent thought of this part before actually. In my own experiences, I was alone with that experience and I had to find a way to deal with it myself. I was invaded many times in my life and each time I was alone and very frightened and really did not know exactly what to do. And there was not any time to truely react methodically, it was all quick and all the senses were in high gear. It is very difficult to allow something repressed out, as on some level we seem to know there are emotions that are in that memory that are very painful. It takes time to truely process these trapped emotions and we also know that subconsciously as well. So we try to protect ourselves from realizing that something really did threaten us and violate us in reality. The healing process takes time and all these trapped emotions have to be carefully addressed with great care in the presense of someone we can trust. It has to be someone that will rescue us in a different way. The important thing that must happen is, in recovering and healing we are not alone and we slowly recognize there is support and understanding. ((((((((((Kmbpeace1171)))))))))) I am sorry that you experienced something terrible in your past. I want you to know that you are not alone with this anymore. There are others that have experienced these feelings and fears too. You can talk about it and there is help and support to help you finally heal and slowly learn to overcome it. In time you will overcome this. It will always be a part of your past, but now you can share it and learn how to finally put it behind you and move forward in your life. Open Eyes |
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Aug 24, 2011, 12:34 PM
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Aug 24, 2011, 01:50 PM
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hi yes i have found me asking almost everyone if htey believe me
and they do so that is good they all said they suspected this along time ago but were waiting for me to get to this point they never pushed me and now are totallyl there for me, just an update called my d\octor waiting for callback to see if they can give meanything to help me get some sleep and to calm my nerves. ty so much for being here I am so terrified right now.
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#9
Aug 24, 2011, 03:06 PM
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I am so glad you felt safe telling your friend and that your friend supported you.
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Aug 25, 2011, 12:05 AM
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(((((Kmbpeace1171)))))
Stay calm, just because you remember something doesn't mean it is happening now, it is the beginning of finally getting it out and overcoming it. Open Eyes |
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#11
Aug 25, 2011, 02:33 PM
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Kmbpeace1171,
(safe hugs) Elana
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#12
Aug 25, 2011, 02:42 PM
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What if i DESERVED this bad thing happening to me not feeling sorry for myself, its just how I feel most times. I have not always been a very kind or good person.
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Aug 25, 2011, 03:09 PM
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No one deserves abuse. It just isn't right.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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#14
Aug 26, 2011, 06:45 AM
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wow it was huge for you to be able to share this horrible thing that hapened to you with someone else
i would be terrified also.but you did it and now you are not alone in it.and noone ever deserves to have what happened to happen not for any reason.
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