[keithalanveeder]

Christmas day started out with my youngest niece deciding in her excitement over all the presents to pull her top over her head and laugh, or something like that. So my day started off with an 11 year old flashing us. I had picked that direction to be randomly looking at because I thought I heard something.

That alone would have been fine, although annoying, but then the other niece (16) got a $30 gift card to Victoria’s Secret and what VS refers to as a G string in the year 2014. Her mother and grandmother insisted she hold it up for all to see. I just looked at floor, seeing where this day was going. All day long, jokes about G strings, VS, thongs, etc.

I was glad the 11 year old was in bed when the mother and the 16 year old were having a grand old time laughing at the vibrator demonstration on one of the shopping channels on DirecTV.

I must be getting old, but this really seemed to bother me as a bit wrong on Christmas Day. When your own childhood includes years of childhood sexual abuse by a cousin who spent many many Christmases at your house, you'd just as soon not have that this sort of humor on Christmas Day.

i actually really do understand where you're coming from.

i would have freaked out and left as soon as your 11 yo niece pulled that stunt.

Christmas is such a difficult time for people who have been abused around that time for many years; I was and I still can't cope with Christmas.

[JumpingJacks]

I dealt with sexual abuse from a close family member and never said anything and for years dealt with it at Christmas time. Then about five years ago it was brought out in counseling and I had to deal with it with the family. Now it seems as though it's my fault for bringing it up instead of his fault for causing the abuse. I didn't even go to Christmas this year and he enjoyed Christmas with the family while I was home alone. I know what you mean about feeling uncomfortable in certain situations. I don't know what the answer is. It seems like the bad guy gets away with murder while the innocents suffer.

[Mrs. Mania]

Originally Posted by JumpingJacks

I dealt with sexual abuse from a close family member and never said anything and for years dealt with it at Christmas time. Then about five years ago it was brought out in counseling and I had to deal with it with the family. Now it seems as though it's my fault for bringing it up instead of his fault for causing the abuse. I didn't even go to Christmas this year and he enjoyed Christmas with the family while I was home alone. I know what you mean about feeling uncomfortable in certain situations. I don't know what the answer is. It seems like the bad guy gets away with murder while the innocents suffer.

This is my story word for word. It's almost creepy. Love and hugs to you I truly can't believe it, every word and details are exact. We are not alone!-comforting and heartbreaking

[Kiya]

blarg! some Christmas! Hard to believe that kind of thing is ok in families. seems waaaaay too young and I sure wouldn't want to be seeing any of that, either!

Originally Posted by JumpingJacks

I dealt with sexual abuse from a close family member and never said anything and for years dealt with it at Christmas time. Then about five years ago it was brought out in counseling and I had to deal with it with the family. Now it seems as though it's my fault for bringing it up instead of his fault for causing the abuse. I didn't even go to Christmas this year and he enjoyed Christmas with the family while I was home alone. I know what you mean about feeling uncomfortable in certain situations. I don't know what the answer is. It seems like the bad guy gets away with murder while the innocents suffer.

Thats my story word for word too