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Oct 17, 2011, 09:50 AM
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Hi
This bugs me. After all shes done to our family.Now shes living alone.My siblings live overseas.When she dies I know I am going to be called.Now what?DO I have to make her funeral arrangements? Im not paying.(She has lots of money and she never liked paying anything for us as little kids even.) She told me a few years ago that I'm not in the will. So , do I have to do anymore for her? I dont want to go. My new family are my dear friends.I have aunts from my father's side and I explained to all of them about mother and they said they know but had to be nice as they wanted her(mother) to be nice to their brother.He has passed on now. What shall I say,I dont want to attend her funeral? and I dont want to help her.More importantly is I dont want to do anything for her anymore. I have anew life and its good .The old ways creep in and I send it away.I pray, mediate and have lovely people in my life. Pls helpme. She hasnt died yet but its bothering me 2when that happens.I dont hate her anymore but want to move away from anything to do with her    
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Oct 17, 2011, 11:10 AM
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You don't have to if you don't want to, I'm sure your aunts will understand but how long ago was the abuse?
If you don't mind me asking, if it happened many years ago then I think it's time to let go. 
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Oct 17, 2011, 12:31 PM
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what u feel comfortable with will help u make the wisest choice.
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand |
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#4
Oct 17, 2011, 12:38 PM
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I'm sorry you're struggling with this. Hopefully she'll have a preplanned funeral and probably she already has a particular person selected who will do the notification. You have full control over how you want to react....meaning if you don't want to even go, that's your choice. Do what makes you feel at peace. Even though your siblings are overseas they can still come to her funeral or make plans if you don't want the job.
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Oct 17, 2011, 09:55 PM
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[COLOR="darkorange"]Pls let me know what it feels like when one has let go? I thought I did.But have reoccurences. How do you know when you have let go and What do you do when you have let go. Do you still visist? An abuser never chnages.She has still manage to say ugly things to me right up till 2 years ago when I accidentally took one of her calls.[/COLOR]
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