[bluemountains]

I like my t and chose her over the three others that are available in the group; however, I find her office uncomfortable. The chairs she has are not comfortable to me, and as a result, I find myself needing to adjust myself constantly. Also, her office is across from one of the small waiting areas, and when I am in that area I can hear the conversations and I think with concentration I could actually make out the words being said. My son's t, also a part of the group, has a great office-private, comfortable couch, nobody right outside the door. Would it be rude to ask to meet in the other t's office? She only has evening hours as opposed to my t's daytime hours. I feel very exposed with my t's office and would prefer more privacy. Would I insult her by asking for a new location?

bluemountains

[Purple Heart]

Hi Bluemountains

your not insulting her. Therapy require utmost privacy and if your not comfortable you really need to let her know. She really needs to know that her walls aren't thick enough that is a confidentialy thing if you can hear some of the words from therapy of other patients. Express your thoughts freely to her.

[unaluna]

Umm - the offices might not be so freely interchangeable? I would be worried that T would say, well THIS is MY office, I pay rent for this one, that's how it was at one place I went to. But there should definitely be a sound machine in the waiting room.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by bluemountains

I like my t and chose her over the three others that are available in the group; however, I find her office uncomfortable. The chairs she has are not comfortable to me, and as a result, I find myself needing to adjust myself constantly. Also, her office is across from one of the small waiting areas, and when I am in that area I can hear the conversations and I think with concentration I could actually make out the words being said. My son's t, also a part of the group, has a great office-private, comfortable couch, nobody right outside the door. Would it be rude to ask to meet in the other t's office? She only has evening hours as opposed to my t's daytime hours. I feel very exposed with my t's office and would prefer more privacy. Would I insult her by asking for a new location?

bluemountains

it is not rude to ask a therapist for a new room for sessions or even ask to rearrange the furniture but you might want to find out if its a possibility first. most of my therapists that worked with agencies were "assigned" which room they were to use. those that were not "assigned" a room had to share space with the other therapists in the agency by scheduling time for the shared room. sometime vacant rooms in the building was not belonging to / rented to/ or ownership to the agency where I saw my therapist.

I am all for letting a therapist know when Im not comfortable in the therapy office, so that the therapist and I can make what ever changes that are possible during our time together.

[kaliope]

it is definately not rude to let her know that her office does not offer the privacy you are seeking for therapy. you just have to be prepared for her not to be able to do anything about it if that is her assigned office.