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#1
Apr 27, 2012, 09:49 PM
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Ever find yourself mistreated or taken advantage of or manipulated and that person is your only friend? Without going into details I feel let down and used. The part of me that always wanted to be loved feels like I've been fooled yet again.
Why do I even bother. 
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 Anonymous100305, carrie_ann, mommyof2girls, Onward2wards, Puffyprue
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Apr 28, 2012, 08:37 AM
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I'm so sorry you are feeling hurt again.
Are you able to start setting boundaries for yourself and your friend? I think boundaries are very important to us. They help to protect us from this kind of thing (unfortunately not everything). Standing up for ourselves and setting boundaries can be difficult to do, but it's important to try to start that process. Like all things in life that we first learn how to do, it's difficult and a bit scary, but it gets easier the more we do it and are successful. You are definitely worth not being taken advantage of. You are worth respect and friendship. I hope that you can find it within yourself to respect and care about yourself enough to set boundaries. Wishing you well!  sabby
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Apr 28, 2012, 09:04 PM
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(((sabby))) Thank you so much for your post. After giving myself some cooling off time I've come up with what I have to say to my friend and set boundaries. I will be chatting with my friend soon as hard as it is. I have to get rid of the feeling that it's either a friendship or I stand up for myself. I can't blame my friend for 'taking advantage of me' if I don't speak up to begin with.
Thank you for your post. 
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#4
Apr 28, 2012, 09:15 PM
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((((((geez)))))) ... sorry no words of wisdom, just care
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Apr 28, 2012, 10:14 PM
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I'm sending you strength and wisdom to find the words that will make it right for you and hopefully for your friend to understand and agree.
I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself. It's important to respect not only our friends but ourselves first and foremost. You are worthy! sabby |
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#6
May 01, 2012, 08:17 AM
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Update: I talked to my friend and she is very understanding! I told her what upset me without putting any of the blame on her. Thanks so much everyone for helping me muster the courage to speak my mind!
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#7
May 01, 2012, 08:51 AM
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(((Geez))) communication yay. :-)
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