[struggling2]

i have some vague fragmented memories, feelings, etc and alot of red flags that there is the possibility that my dad sexually abused me when i was younger.

ive talked about it in therapy......not super super in depth but T is aware of most everything that i remember. she said to me the other day....

"you really want something concrete dont you?" and i of course said yes.
and she said "you know, most people dont get that"

im trying to wrap my head around that. i feel like with all the "symptoms" and reg flags that if it didnt involve my dad...i could just say "yes i was abused" and not need such concrete evidence....but its my DAD. i dont understand what she means. what do you do if you dont have something concrete? how do you "move on" in the process without it?

im so confused.

[Open Eyes]

I can't blame you for being confused. But if your dad sexually abused you when you were a child your T may be correct because children can block that out or just not know what it means at the time. Childhood memories can be vague unfortunately, and it is because either children block it out or they just don't know what it means and it doesn't seem as tramatic to them because of that.

Chances are something may have happened if you keep having these vague memories/feelings. Why would anyone have them is there was no truth to them?

Open Eyes

[hopefultoday]

I have the same experience and I'm trying to deal with it in therapy. I've told my therapist I don't know if it really even happened. But again why would I have these few recurring memories?? I can understand how you're feeling!

[youOme]

Thats strange because I can only remember few pieces of my childhood. My sister and brother.. and other family members tell me many stories Im involved with that I cant remember not even vaguely. I suspect there was sexual abuse in my family, and yes my dad and a few others were involved. Both my brother and sister say there was. I deny it happening to me, but what if my memory loss is actually blocking it out? I've wondered this and your post is making me think. It is very confusing. I hope you find the answers you seek. Personally I aint opening that door especially since my Dads leaving my home state to come visit me next week. That would just be awkward.

[pbutton]

I have the same problem. Drives me nuts.

[Sannah]

Maybe as you keep healing and doing your work more memories will surface and will be more clear?

I had no idea what was wrong with my family but I knew something was. With continued work and investigation (educating myself on stuff) I was able to put everything together.