[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

***Triggers*** So here's the thing... ive had blackouts since I was 5 when really bad abuse would happen. So i barely remember any of the abuse at all. But about my grandfather, i remember his vibes. Creepy, always watching with that look in his eyes. One morning at 7am i was walking home after spending the night at a friends, she only lived 1/2 a block away, maybe 6 houses down. As soon as i leave her house he shows up (and he lived no where near us nor knew anyone in our neighborhood, it was 7am) and he starts telling me how grown up i look and pretty and insisting he give me a ride home. I told him i could walk as it was so close but he continued to insist until i caved and got on the motorcycle. I dont remember what happened from there, could have been a blackout or maybe just time made me forget. But other then looks comments and tgat one instance, i dont remember anything else off about him, and i spent 1/2 my childhood at their home

Well a month or so ago, his daughter (my aunt) who is just one year older than me came forward saying he molested her and me. I dont talk to her at all anymore so this information came from my grandmother. My aunt was in therapy working on repressed memories, and that she uncovered memories of him SA'ing both of us...

My aunt is known to be a huge liar so idk what to believe and have been working through it with t. My grandma is also convinced my grandpa did this, t is convinced as well but idk.

So two nights ago my grandpa fell off the roof of a house and was airlifted to the hospital and idk... do i visit him? Do i call? Do i send something? This information about his abuse is so new and fresh i dont know what the right thing to do is...

[tryingtobeme]

Well, its a sticky situation but I think you have to go with what you can live with. Can you live with the fact that he got hurt and now is in the hospital and you didn't see him? I had something similar with my father. To this day I don't talk to my father but deep down I knew for my own mind I needed to go and see him in the hospital the time he got hurt. Yes I didn't have much to say but I knew I needed too for me.

This is about you and what you need and can live with. seeing him or not? I understand it's a touch decision but think about it and you will know what is in your heart.