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Jul 07, 2012, 08:14 AM
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Well, after a long road of slowly setting limits, I have to see my great aunt who did csa. Irs my grandpas funeral and she will be there With family help I avoided her last week, and was able to be with gpa when he died. I know she is going to make a scene when I don't hug her, gave never set that limit before. Gonnna try and remember that i can walk away, and can only control my actions....Helps some to post knowing folks who are working on healing are seeing this...
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 Anonymous37917, beauflow, Catherine2, mandamoo42, Open Eyes, Sannah, shezbut
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Jul 07, 2012, 08:37 PM
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That must be extremely hard, especially under the circumstances. I am sorry about the loss of your grandfather.
 It seems that you are doing well to prepare. All I can suggest is plan what you will do if it becomes difficult for you (walk out, tell a friend/family member etc.) as well as when you think it will become too much (eg. seeing her, talking to her etc.). If you are already prepared and know when you will react and what you will do then it is easier to implement those strategies when it happens. I just hope that everything goes ok-ish and you don't have to use those strategies  You are very brave to be doing this.
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Jul 07, 2012, 11:29 PM
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REEG,
It's very good that you got help from family last week, and able to be with your grandpa as he passed away. Hopefully, your family will continue to be supportive of you and help provide distraction through the funeral services. It's great that you're thinking ahead and trying to prepare yourself for the worst. I agree with catgoesmeow, you are very brave. Kudos to you! I hope that things go smoothly for you. You have my sympathy in the loss of your grandfather ~ gentle hugs to you
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Jul 10, 2012, 04:15 PM
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Thanks all, the funeral and the rest of the weekend went okay, I walked away from her twice, and you know what, it was hard but it is over. Did not anticipate the reactions of all her friends at the funeral, and pressure from them. My family did the best the could this is new for all if us. Glad I have T tonight to work it through
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Jul 11, 2012, 04:09 AM
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Well done xx
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Jul 12, 2012, 06:10 PM
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Sounds like you did extremely well
Hopefully your therapist managed to help you work through it 
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Jul 14, 2012, 12:16 AM
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Quote:
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Jul 14, 2012, 04:27 AM
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I know nights can be hard! For me, I always try and settle down and watch a good movie or read a good book, but everyone is different. I hope that you managed to find something to help you relax.
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