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Feb 21, 2013, 02:18 PM
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I'm extremely nervous about writing this...
When I was 11-14 I was friends with a bully (who was the same sex as me) we started off playing 'intimate' games and she became 'obsessed' with my body; leaving bruises on my chest and putting objects inside me and mocked me for how I looked nude; she also made me do the same things back and I felt dirty for years. Flash forward to now and I suffer from spasms that stop sex/penetration and have panic attacks before being intimate with my husband. I don't know how to class what happened when i was younger as; any opinions would be appreciated. I don't think it was SA but I don't know what to call it! Last edited by Raging Quiet; Feb 21, 2013 at 03:09 PM. |
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#2
Feb 21, 2013, 02:50 PM
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RectOpathic, it sounds like a PTSD flash back. Hope you can find a satisfactory answer to the situation you describe. It seems like you have the answer yourself, but maybe the PTSD forum will help you find that answer. Either that, or a PC member may assist you.
Take care.
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#3
Feb 21, 2013, 03:08 PM
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Thank you; take care of yourself x
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#4
Feb 22, 2013, 10:49 AM
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If this happened to you when you were younger ; what would you think it was? Is it normal child behaviour?
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Feb 22, 2013, 11:13 AM
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No, that was sexual abuse. Similar stuff happened to me when I was younger and it didn't occur to me until recently that it was sexual abuse.
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#6
Feb 22, 2013, 11:53 AM
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Quote:
(((((Huge hugs your way)))))) |
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#7
Feb 22, 2013, 07:39 PM
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I had a similar revelation back in September. Turns out what I thought had been mostly-normal (or so I had assumed) was very much sexual abuse. It was absolutely frighteningly eye opening.
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#8
Feb 22, 2013, 08:52 PM
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I think that happens to us a lot; when we are sexually abused, for some reason it doesn't register that that's what happened and we often don't realize how much we're afftected by that.
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Feb 23, 2013, 05:02 PM
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Thanks everyone for your input.
I tried telling my T about this and she said 'all little girls do that; it's normal' even though its affected me to this day I really value your opinions x |
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Feb 23, 2013, 06:41 PM
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 No, that IS NOT normal behavior! There is a certain amount of "exploring" that's normal, but that goes beyond. "Normal" is when a 3 year old girl wonders why her 2 year old brother has a wee-wee, and she doesn't. A 14 year old girl leaving bruises on you, putting objects in you, and making you do the same--to the point where you are still having problems--that's a whole different story. No wonder so many victims are confused about what happened to them! I'm sorry for being harsh, but that really bothers me.
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#11
Feb 23, 2013, 10:50 PM
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She abused you. I am glad some ppl here are validating this.
I went thru similar experiences *and* got told there was nothing wrong with what they did to me. Carol |
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#12
Feb 23, 2013, 10:56 PM
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Hmm, makes me wonder about your T if she thinks that's normal behavior.
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#13
Feb 24, 2013, 05:57 AM
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Thank you so much; you are all the only people to validate and take me seriously
Sending a lot of love your way x |
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