[mb83]

How do you share these things in therapy that you have never shared before? What if you can't ever remember the details (and don't really want to)? I find myself reacting so STRONGLY in such a physical sense that it terrifies me...and I don't know how to handle it, how to control it...it scares me. Does anybody here know how to overcome that hurdle with these types of deep-seeded secrets?

[Sabra]

Originally Posted by mb83

How do you share these things in therapy that you have never shared before? What if you can't ever remember the details (and don't really want to)? I find myself reacting so STRONGLY in such a physical sense that it terrifies me...and I don't know how to handle it, how to control it...it scares me. Does anybody here know how to overcome that hurdle with these types of deep-seeded secrets?

Hey mb83.

This is how I started the process. I told my therapist just a bit about what I was experiencing. I watched how she reacted. She passed the first step, so I shared another little piece of info. She didn't fall out of her chair, her jaw didn't drop to the floor, so I shared another piece of me. I kept doing it, bit by bit, fear by fear, my pain, my shame etc.

This took a long time, but I started with the least scary thing and moved on. I experienced alot of feelings, sometimes overwhelming me. My therapist taught me how to manage my anxiety and pain. At times I didn't think I could continue, but the thought of stopping scared me more than staying with it. The rewards are worth it.

Sabra

[tinyrabbit]

Writing things down can help. And take it slow. Focus on one small thing to tell and don't think about the rest, then move into another small thing.