[BLUEDOVE]

Hi Folks,
Hope the following is of use to
some of you:
"When the child is very young he looks
upon his parents as Gods;he sees them as
all wise,all powerful,and all goodness.And of course he loves them.He loves them even if they don't love him,or even if they mistreat him and are incapable of love---he STILL loves them.
They are his
carers,his world,his very survival,his life.
And so if he is not loved,and there are no
signs of love from them,he CANNOT and
WILL NOT blame them. To live,he needs
them,so he cannot look upon them as anything but goodness.And it is at this point he creates a FANTASY-BOND to them--and the fantasy is:"They are good,
they really love me deep down,the problem is ME! I'M not good,I'M worth less,I don't deserve love,I'M not lovable,
I'M BAD!"
In short,the child 'carries the can' for the parents inadequacy and failure to love.Even later when he grows
up,he STILL carries that FALSE message
in his subconscious.And unless he is reading this,he will carry that message to
his grave.
The truth is, it was NEVER TRUE. In his small mind he could only do
what he thought would keep him safe.
Every child is ALWAYS LOVABLE,every child is GOOD,every child IS WORTHY,
every child is DESERVING OF LOVE.

You cannot go back to being a child,but
you can copy this down and read it last
thing at night before you put light out.
And FIRST THING in the morning (it is very powerful in the morning) before you
do a thing.
Blessings To All,
BLUEDOVE

[Travelinglady]

Thanks so much. A wonderful idea!

[BrokenNBeautiful]

I think that the reason I blame myself so much *is* because it's still easier to accept that my aunt (and others) are the good ones then it is to accept that they really didn't have my best interest in mind. And even if they did have it in mind, they simply did not know how to bring it out. They were hurting. And that's still not the kid's fault.

thanks so much for this insight, though painful. It's a good pain. Healing tears.

Carol