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Jul 31, 2013, 10:22 AM
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1. Addictive behaviors – excessively turning to drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, gambling as a way to push difficult emotions and upsetting trauma content further away.
2. An inability to tolerate conflicts with others – having a fear of conflict, running from conflict, avoiding conflict, maintaining skewed perceptions of conflict 3. An inability to tolerate intense feelings, preferring to avoid feeling by any number of ways 4. An innate belief that they are bad, worthless, without value or importance 5. Black and white thinking, all or nothing thinking, even if this approach ends up harming themselves 6. Chronic and repeated suicidal thoughts and feelings 7. Disorganized attachment patterns – having a variety of short but intense relationships, refusing to have any relationships, dysfunctional relationships, frequent love/hate relationships 8. Dissociation, spacing out, losing time, missing time, feeling like you are two completely different people (or more than two) 9. Eating disorders – anorexia, bulimia, obesity, etc 10. Excessive sense of self-blame – taking on inappropriate responsibility as if everything is their fault, making excessive apologies 11. Inappropriate attachments to mother figures or father figures, even with dysfunctional or unhealthy people 12. Intense anxiety and repeated panic attacks 13. Intrusive thoughts, upsetting visual images, flashbacks, body memories / unexplained body pain, or distressing nightmares 14. Ongoing, chronic depression 15. Repeatedly acting from a victim role in current day relationships 16. Repeatedly taking on the rescuer role, even when inappropriate to do so 17. Self-harm, self-mutilation, self-injury, self-destruction 18. Suicidal actions and behaviors, failed attempts to suicide 19. Taking the perpetrator role / angry aggressor in relationships 20. Unexplained but intense fears of people, places, things Mine are in bold. I have knocked off a couple of those since Therapy 9 months ago.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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#2
Jul 31, 2013, 10:25 AM
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Gosh, i have all of those except numbers 6 and 18.
I guess my T is right, my childhood was traumatic....
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“Change, like healing, takes time.”. Veronica Roth, Allegiant |
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#3
Jul 31, 2013, 11:34 AM
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I have almost all of these
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#4
Jul 31, 2013, 11:53 AM
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Thanks for the list.
 I have 75% of these.
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KIRBY  DXS: MDD, PTSD, GAD.  . I believe there are others. RX: Wellbutrin XL, 300 mg tablet daily, in AM |
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#5
Jul 31, 2013, 12:29 PM
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I have all of them except 1, 16 and 19. I wish I'd seen this list years ago - might have started therapy sooner.
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Jul 31, 2013, 12:32 PM
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Thanks. this helps me with my current issue - understanding that I need help.
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#7
Jul 31, 2013, 12:36 PM
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Wow I have lots of unresolved ones
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Bipolar 1 Gad Ptsd BPD ZOLOFT 100 TOPAMAX 400 ABILIFY 10 SYNTHROID 137 |
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Jul 31, 2013, 12:36 PM
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I find it hard to see myself as someone who needs help. I write things down for my T to read and I worry about him being upset by them. But I feel nothing about them.
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#9
Jul 31, 2013, 04:27 PM
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oh man, I am toast mentally. I am 2,3,4,7,8,9,10, 12,14,15,16,20. All but six of them. I know I had a missed up youth. No wonder I am where I am today. But working on getting better . A year from now I hope to say, none of these apply to me any longer.
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#10
Jul 31, 2013, 09:35 PM
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Dang.
I have all except 1, 16, 18, and 19. Maybe my childhood was messed up. Thanks for the list.
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"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer" -Camus since feeling is first who pays any attention to the syntax of things will never wholly kiss you; wholly to be a fool while Spring is in the world- cummings |
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Aug 03, 2013, 11:21 AM
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Wow, I've been in therapy for this and have yet to be able to disclose this to my therapist. About half of these relate.
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Aug 03, 2013, 12:27 PM
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Most of these are my experience. Especially the depression, anxiety and dissociation. I think I'm getting better with therapy
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Aug 03, 2013, 12:46 PM
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I have most of these as well.
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Aug 04, 2013, 10:14 AM
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Oh this is so bad! I have so many of these. I wish this little town that I lived in offered some help. I know part of my problem is I have not had any therapy to help with the problems from my past.
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Aug 06, 2013, 01:03 AM
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Almost all of the list have played a big part in my daily life. #'s 11 and 19 are the exceptions. I have overcome some of things on that list, but left with 14 tendencies that I still need to work through! Yikes
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"Only in the darkness can you see the stars." - Martin Luther King Jr. "Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace." - Author Unkown |
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Aug 08, 2013, 03:11 PM
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Almost of all of these are me
Except 8, 9, 11, 15 and 16. Something I will have to talk with my therapist about next session. Great post!
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Aug 10, 2013, 01:28 PM
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I have a lot except 14 and 15...
still much to do in therapy!
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Aug 10, 2013, 07:37 PM
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Holy smokes, me too! I have been beating myself severely for a lot of these. Thanks for posting these it has helped today.
Jade
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Aug 10, 2013, 07:58 PM
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I have many, had some others but dealt with them, none of the ones that refer to suicidal behavior.
Can I ask, where did you get that list? |
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Aug 11, 2013, 03:01 PM
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2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 8, 9, 10,12,13,14,16,17,18,20 are me. Its something that controls my life everyday wish I knew how to stop it.
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Aug 17, 2013, 11:57 AM
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I seem to be all of those except for 15,16,19 and 20...
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The girl who seemed unbreakable BROKE, the girl who always laughed CRIED the girl who never stopped trying finally GAVE UP, she dropped a fake smile as a tear rolled down her cheek and she whispered too herself "i cant do this anymore" I'm like marmite you either love or hate me . i can't drown my demons - they know how to swim. |
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Aug 17, 2013, 05:23 PM
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wow- I've gone thru all of these--some less than others, and at different times
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Aug 17, 2013, 05:51 PM
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thanks so much for posting this Moxie, I have all of them and am only realising now that I have suffered traume but neither of my ts have mentioned this.
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Aug 17, 2013, 06:51 PM
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I have all but number 1 and that I occasionally have.
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PTSD possible bipolar Meds: propranalol 20mg 2x's(blood pressure), lamictal 300mg, seroquel 100mg, effexor 75mg, sprycel 100mg (CML, chronic myeloid leukemia), iron supplement, multivitamin  |
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#25
Aug 19, 2013, 11:03 AM
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1. Addictive behaviors – excessively turning to drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, gambling as a way to push difficult emotions and upsetting trauma content further away.
2. An inability to tolerate conflicts with others – having a fear of conflict, running from conflict, avoiding conflict, maintaining skewed perceptions of conflict 3. An inability to tolerate intense feelings, preferring to avoid feeling by any number of ways 4. An innate belief that they are bad, worthless, without value or importance 5. Black and white thinking, all or nothing thinking, even if this approach ends up harming themselves 6. Chronic and repeated suicidal thoughts and feelings 7. Disorganized attachment patterns – having a variety of short but intense relationships, refusing to have any relationships, dysfunctional relationships, frequent love/hate relationships 8. Dissociation, spacing out, losing time, missing time, feeling like you are two completely different people (or more than two) 9. Eating disorders – anorexia, bulimia, obesity, etc 10. Excessive sense of self-blame – taking on inappropriate responsibility as if everything is their fault, making excessive apologies 11. Inappropriate attachments to mother figures or father figures, even with dysfunctional or unhealthy people 12. Intense anxiety and repeated panic attacks 13. Intrusive thoughts, upsetting visual images, flashbacks, body memories / unexplained body pain, or distressing nightmares 14. Ongoing, chronic depression 15. Repeatedly acting from a victim role in current day relationships 16. Repeatedly taking on the rescuer role, even when inappropriate to do so 17. Self-harm, self-mutilation, self-injury, self-destruction 18. Suicidal actions and behaviors, failed attempts to suicide 19. Taking the perpetrator role / angry aggressor in relationships 20. Unexplained but intense fears of people, places, things Oh my. I've got most of that (to various extents). Like... my self-harm involves what I take into my body (over/under eating, pill consumption, drinking). Nightmares more so than any traditional flashback. Little surprised with this!
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"The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
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