[plshlp]

I just found out that my 16 year old son has been raped by a almost 50 year old woman. She is a parent at my child's school. She has raped more than one child and is freely walking the streets. I went to the police station last night to press charges and was turned away because there was already an open investigation they "thought". I have called and left multiple messages with the sex crimes detective today and nothing. I was called today by a coach and told not to press charges because he will lose his scholarship offers because he is a top DI recruit and if its found out he accepted gifts from this monster he loses his eligibility that he has worked so hard for but I have to protect my son and I want to hurt this chick but I keep praying that the lord keeps me under his wing cause I cant take somebody hurting my baby and no one care cause he is a big black athlete. so its just a joke. but its my kid and I'm not laughing i don't know what to do.

[blueredgrey]

I am so sorry your son was raped!
It's really shocking that cops and detectives are not taking it seriously and not registering a case. What's even more shocking is the teacher who wants to keep his job, while children of his school are getting raped!!

This is no joke, this is a very, very serious matter!

You cannot take this lying down. I think you should meet up with the school principal and complain about the woman and also about the coach. Maybe you can get child protection services involved, they have the muscle power to get the case registered and push for execution, since many children's lives is at stake here.

The Penn State Sex abuse case came tumbling out because someone pushed for it and kept pushing.

If all that fails, maybe you can get media involved, though that should be the laaaaaast resort, only for justice, since media attention can distress victims.

Wish you all the best for it.

And while getting justice for your son is only one side it, the other side, a more important side is for your son to heal his emotional wounds. Pls consult a therapist and take your son to it. Healing and moving on is far more important that justice.

Good luck.

[nycgal448]

call a child abuse helpline.

[HazelGirl]

All of the above, and get your son into counseling.

[shezbut]

I agree with the others. They're way ahead of me.

I am so sorry. This world can be so enraging at times. I just don't understand it!

Very best wishes to you & your son.

[pinkbutterfly]

Fight fight fight for your son.
Oh how I wished someone had believed and fought for me.

He needs you...don't give up. There has to be some sort of exception for abuse regarding gifts and ineligibility.

And definitely get him into counseling. He will need that.

And make sure he KNOWS that you believe him, that you do not blame him for any of it, and that you are fighting for him. Regardless of what happens with laws or charges filed. Knowing that you are in his corner to fight for him and protect him will make ALL the difference. He needs YOU.

[Rzay4]

Oh my gosh I'm sorry you're going through this, keep trying. I'll keep you and your son in my thoughts.

[Switch]

There is not much advice that hasn't been given already. I agree you need to keep FIGHTING for your son, and not give up. Your son is so lucky to have a mom like you. Let him know how much you love him and how it wasn't his fault and this will not define him. I also agree that getting him therapy right away is the best thing for him - it can really help avoid a lot of the long term effects of this trauma.

Best of luck. You and your son are in my thoughts and prayers.

[transient]

My heart goes out to you and your son. It must be a lot for both of you to handle, I'm going to keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers.
I don't know what to do as far as the school is involved, but I would make sure your son is out of that woman's classes or doesn't go to the side of school she works in, if he's able to. If not, I might even keep him home until someone contacts you back.
If you can, I would contact the principal of the school, and if that doesn't help, go higher up and contact the superintendent. This women needs to be removed asap, and the people working with her need to be severely reprimanded if they let her walk away from this.
It might even be helpful if you two can somehow talk to the other survivors and their parents to form a bigger group so you can't be ignored, and to support each other in the community.

Can you and your son freely communicate? does he know he can come to you with personal things like this? In the mean time, if you can't get a counsellor for him or are waiting for one to contact you for him to see, I would try to just be around him and offer support when he needs it. I'm glad he has a mom like you to fight for him.
Take care!