[Survivor82]

Hopeless!!! Is exactly how I feel right now!! I am trapped in a relationship in which I have been suffering from Domestic Violence since 2009!! My world is in an complete uproar and the saddest part of the whole thing is that my 2 young children (8 & 2) are trapped with me! How do you find the courage to leave? How do you find the courage to run and never look back? SOMEONE!! ANYONE!! PLEASE!! Help me find the answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[gayleggg]

Find the closest women's abuse shelter and give them a call. They can help you break free.

[blueredgrey]

I am sorry you are going through this.

You are only trapped in this situation if you let yourself be trapped. By not taking any action, things are only going to get worse. You have to start planning an exit IMMEDIATELY. Believe me, not just for yourself, but for your children. It's time to be a tiger mom. Violence against you is also going to leave them severely damaged for life.

They will not learn to be assertive. Their idea of a relationship would be that "you have to walk on eggshells". Their self worth will take a severe beating. They would feel completely helpless on seeing you getting beaten by your husband. Worse, they may turn abusers themselves or enter abusive relationships, unconsciously, because it feels "familiar". If not for your own, but for you children YOU HAVE TO GET OUT.

If you can, get some recording device that helps prove physical abuse. It would help you get separated. Please keep all this a secret from your husband. I don't know what kind of person he is.....whether he can improve from counselling or is beyond help.

As gaylegg suggested, call Women's Abuse Shelter. Have a plan of how you can support financially. Start looking at places you can stay or jobs you can do....because I think you would really need all that (again, depends on the type of person your husband is).

If possible, think of moving to a different location where you can be safer.

Take action. With every single day...sorry....with every single minute, you are making things worse for you and your children. Talk to abuse shelter and chart out an exit plan with them (again, it depends on the type of person your husband is).

Just want to add.....if you plan to leave and your husband immediately says that he will not be abusive.....don't buy it. Men who change their ways take their time to mend their ways, that often involves therapy.

Good luck!!