Therapists and thier obsession with trying to bring up your feelings and emotions whe

This is what I dont get sometimes, and I will bring it up with my t on Tuesday. Here is the thing. I use to meet with her every 2 weeks, now she has bumped it up to every week recently, anyway, for the session hour, I sit there, btw I have a great connection with her. I sit there and we talk.

So I present one of my topics for the hour, that is when I can be organized, and when I am done, she gives her feedback, to me that is processed, to her its not. Also during the same conversation, she will ask, " what kind of feelings and emotions does that bring up for you? Let say I say angry or sad or whatever, then she will ask " why does it make you feel xyz? this is so damn confusing because I dont know why it makes me feel xy and z to begin with, I just thought I would throw and emotion out there and that would be it you know. Here is the analogy I want to give her:

The topic would be a turkey dinner on thanksgiving.
The sides would be all the emotions and feelings that come with the dinner.

If I am talking about the topic, I am giving her the turkey dinner, which always comes with the sides. why then ask "what is this bringing up for you?
Isnt it obvious? If the client is telling you a story from the past, a sad fearful and hurtful story, wouldnt you know all the generic emotions that come with it? of course the clients emotions and feelings wouldnt be happy joyful and leaping bounds.
What do you guys think?

I think she asks because she doesn't want to assume or guess what your feeling about the sad or hurtful story. Not everyone is going to feel the same emotions when telling a similar story. Someone could feel one emotion or a lot of emotions. She could also be asking so you will reflect on what your feeling. I know I tend to block out what i'm feeling so when T asks that question it forces me to take notice of them. Otherwise I would just skip over them and continue on with the conversation.

She might be trying to see if you relive the emotions or are just, sort of, reporting.

Dear sweepy62,

Therapy is mostly talking about emotions. A large part of therapy is understanding why you feel the way you feel . Sometimes that may not be the best feeling to feel....if that makes sense. I guess your therapist is trying to get to the bottom of your feelings.

For example - If my mom used to do anything for me, I didn't feel thankful....but I felt a rage that my mom did something for me (I still do). I had no idea why.....but the more I analysed, I realised that deep down I felt that my mom is judging me as "lazy".....I was extremely self critical about me.....and I used to feel disgusted that I am lazy....and I used to be angry at my mom that she made me feel that way. I have just got to the reason....I am still trying to change the way I feel.

Please work with your therapist but do a lot of self analysis of what you feel If you don't know why you feel what you feel....it's okay to say that you don't know.....maybe your therapist would help you there.

Good luck!!