[AngstyLady]

OMG!! SO he responded to my text (check out my 'my ex has been bothering me' post to know what I'm talking about) with this:
'Hey I have nothing to do with you as I'm already engaged. Just wanted to wish you this Christmas as I know you. Nothing more."
OMG!!
Like- I broke up with him in the beginning of March this year- when he raped me- it was September and he was supposedly single.
Either he was lying then, or he's lying now.
Upset as I am, and shocked by his response, I just texted back:
"Really? Engaged? lol'
Then I said,
"You're such a f ucking idiot - I told you what happened (he claims he doesn't remember and blames alcohol, but with how many times he did it to me that night- it has to be a lie) and you think it's ok to try to be my friend still?
What you did was beyond forgivable- the worse time that's happened to me of all the times that's happened to me. Have a nice life!"
If he texts back, I'm done. I honestly think in his sick mind he doesn't think he did anything wrong and is lying because he thinks he can make me jealous like he still has a f ucking chance to get back with me!

[AngstyLady]

Or perhaps he is engaged, either way, he still doesn't see a problem with his behavior.
At least he hasn't responded to me further. I just want to move on.
The thing is, the first time I was raped, I didn't know the guys complete name or where he lived- I couldn't press charges because I never saw him again- same with the second time- the third time was with an ex who I felt didn't think he knew it was rape (I woke up to him having sex with me and he said I he thought I liked this whole dominance thing) looking back, maybe I should've pressed charges. But now it's like it happened, I've never done anything about it before, and I guess I'm old fashioned but I feel like what happened was towards me with my recent ex(and my other ex from years ago for that matter) happened towards just me alone- I don't think it's something he does to other girls, let alone anyone. Perhaps it was the alcohol, but I doubt he doesn't remember. Apparently he feels bad, but he needs to just move on. I think perhaps he will soon enough, once he gets it through his thick skull.

[Harley47]

I am so sorry all this has happened to you...yeah, with all due respect, your ex is a complete moron. If you don't give consent, then it's rape. Simple as that, as I see it. There's no "dominance" thing involved. He's an idiot if he believes that. I think he's trying to justify his own behavior with himself, and is trying to get even something along the lines of a mere polite reply, with which he can go "Well, she's not mad anymore, so things must be okay! " Idiot.

Good for you for response. I respect you for it, and I think you illustrated to him in no uncertain terms that A) what he did was NOT okay and B) you will not grant him the justification he wants. Kudos to you.

I hope things get better, and know I'm keeping you in my prayers. And respectfully...do tell the son of a ***** to rot in Hell if he texts back for me, will you?

Hugs,
Harley