[radio_flyer]

Sitting here and wondering just how does one learn to deal with painful experiences in one's life. How does one do this? I thought I knew but it is starting to look like I do not deal with painful issues let alone face them all that well.....Am thinking there prob is no easy answer.

[LILITH]

I can tell you for me it is very hard. The flashbacks are so bad for me.... I find I get lost in them. I just wait for a new day to arrive.

[FaithisAlive]

One day at a time....cry when you feel like it.. yell when you need to....and find something every day that you can say is a blessing...

and find a way to laugh each day....you don't ever really deal with painful experiences.. you learn to live with them and still be happy.

Faith

[Rhapsody]

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Sitting here and wondering just how does one learn to deal with painful experiences in one's life. How does one do this? I thought I knew but it is starting to look like I do not deal with painful issues let alone face them all that well.....Am thinking there prob is no easy answer.

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I personally talk my way out of the despair with a trusted friend or family member..... and with talking it thru I always leave with a better understanding of WHY & HOW?

Plus.... I try to learn from all sides of the fence - to why we as humans do things (right or wrong) or react they way we do (good or bad).... Knowledge is Power!!

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Sabrina]

I understand radio flyer. I don't deal with my painful experiences very constructively even though I have been taught "how" to. It isn't easy.

One day at a time though - that is all I can promise myself.

You are right - there is no easy answer.

[Soidhonia]

Hello I hope things are going better for you at this time. I really feel that the first step in getting better and dealing with issues is to have a support team, that consists of friends a support group, (CHURCH) if you have one, and a good therapy team and management care for your mental health. I also attend support groups on a regular basis NAMI and DBSA and talk to others that understand where I am coming from with mental health issues. Daily maintenance plans (under maryellen Copeland WRAP) is a good start as well in making the right decisions when things break down. I am also going to leave you a hotline number to call if you need to 1-800-273-TALK. I hope the best for you. Take care Sincerely Soidhonia

[JustAPixie]

Pain is like an open wound that heals with a lot of time and even more love... We heal in healthy relationships. Our hurt and suffering will always leave a scar, but old scars don't hurt anymore...

Acceptance and not avoidance is important. At one point or another you are going to have to accept what happened, pick yourself up and start to move forward, and that is sometimes the most difficult thing to do...