[treespirit]

I am a guy and I still live with my parents. My mom does not seem to understand that there are certain topics that are too private for me to talk to her about. For some reason she thinks that she must be aware of every single aspect of my life. When she sees that I am upset by something, she says I should tell her what's wrong with me. When I tell her that everything is fine and nothing is wrong, or that I don't wanna talk about it, she gets scared out of her mind and begins threatening to call 911 so that they would take me to a psychiatric hospital. When I tell her that she can call wherever and whomever she wants, and that I'll gladly speak to a psychiatrist or the police, she doesn't call. She starts talking about how sick she is and that she won't make it without me. I believe it is socially not acceptable to try to pressurize a person like this. My dad seems to agree, but he cannot do anything about my mom's actions. It's almost as if I should always pretend that I am happy, otherwise I receive threats about being forced into a hospital. It is a very stressful situation for me, and I am not sure how to handle it. When I say I'll move out, she starts screaming that I won't make it on my own.

Does anyone have any advice about how to best deal with this?

[kaliope]

it sounds like your mother is very enmeshed in your life and no this is not healthy. probably the best thing to do is to move out and show her you can make it on your own. second to that is to go to therapy together and set boundaries with your mother to break these ties she has with you and show her what a healthy relationship is al about. take care.