[Depletion]

Did you tell your T your whole story right away, or did you wait. The last T I was seeing (briefly) kept insisting that I tell her my history. I really didn't like this. I need time to tell anyone about it. It it ok to tell your therapist that you want to wait to talk about the abuse of abandonment stuff. Are they supposed to respect this? What's the deal.

[shabur]

I took it slow in what I revealed. At each session there was a little more. I need to trust the person who is going to be helping me. I suggest you take your time.

[Frankbtl]

Afraid I can't speak from personal experience, but I'd say that they're YOUR therapist and there to help YOU. So if you're not comfortable talking about something then absolutely they should respect your wishes. They need to work with you at YOUR pace. Therapy shouldn't just be a "textbook procedure" it should be personalised to you.
True, they may encourage you to push yourself a little at times through your therapy but they should ensure that you're not pressured and feel safe in pushing yourself, and that you are ready to/want to push yourself.
It might be good to give them just a outline at the beginning though (if you feel OK with this) without any details if you want. Something as "simple" as telling them it happened but you don't want to go into any detail at the time. That way if they ask you questions or make suggestions they can at least be sensitive around what they're asking/suggesting. And then as sessions go on you may feel more able to give more details.
But at least it's good that you're not still seeing the last therapist, just make sure you're expecting a lot more than that from your current/next one.
Best wishes
Alison

[mazing]

I would try to talk to your therapist about your needs and how you are feeling. Therapists will push you outside of your comfort zone at times but it shouldn't be all at once and they should also give you time to build a relationship and trust them before beginning to go into the really sensitive and deep issues.