[Brookester]

Good Morning, each year I have a repeat of the last--->a re-enactment or so it seems of the date that it was explained to me that what my father did to me was called "molestation." Since this date coincides with the holidays, I have one heck of a time living in the month of December. Although I have a therapist, psychiatrist, meds and friends, I still can't kick the heck out of the ensuing pain of the past. It just comes on full force. And when most everyone goes home to family for Christmas, I don't and end up having to make up a white lie. Why does the pain not ease each December? The answer is not to build my own family, it is just not the same. I would like one or two blood relatives! Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you so much.

[sadeyesr4ever]

Brookestar I wish that I had an answer for you but I don't. I can't even fix my own life. I just wanted you to know that I am so very sorry that you have to deal with this each year. My heart goes out to you. (((hugs)))

[JustAPixie]

Welcome Brookester. I also have a "reunion" every year and it is still a bad time for me. I think that only time and love can ease the pain in the end... it won't happen over night as you well know, but I really think you need to find some or other kind of distraction during December, something that you enjoy so that you don't only have negative connotations to that time. It is very hard at first to be proactive in your own recovery, but sometime you're gonna have to make that choice. Do you have some friends that you can spend the holiday with instead?

[FaithisAlive]

It might sound corny to some but for me it helps to go feed the hungry at the homeless shelter.. and also to visit the old folks homes where the elderly are often forgotten by their families....they are so grateful...

I don't have any blood family to spend holidays with anymore.... but who says you have to be blood related to be family?I have some close friends who are family to me....I am blessed... and I am sure you are too if you look at those in your life who care for you ....

Peace, Faith